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    Default Would you drop a child off without 'permission'?

    I need advice as to what to do.

    In short, my ex partner is jerko numero uno. I go to TAFE 3 days a week, and my ex uses this time to have visitation of our 15 month old.

    Yesterday I was 15 minutes late to pick him up, and now ex says that 'bad behaviour needs to be punished, I'm not looking after him tomorrow.' And I need him looked after today. He is late all the time by the way.

    Would you just go to his house with DS and drop him off anyway? I know his neighbours well, they are friends of his family, so I am considering going over there if he refuses and saying, when ex is ready to pick him, he's very welcome to do so, until then I'm dropping him off here. (DS knows them).

    Or should I not go and try quick smart to organise FDC for him?

    I am leaning towards option two, but I am so mad!!!!

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    I would definitely go with option 2.

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    I'd go option 2 as mad as I would be your DS doesn't need to be in the middle of you two

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    So your "bad behaviour" needs to be a punishment on your child.... Yeah so that makes sense..

    I would probably just do the fdc if possible.

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    I should say that my friend has offered to help out for the second half of the day, but I feel bad bothering her, and I am also mad that other people have to pick up the slack for the ex. Also, my house is in a messy state and I have to clean it.

    I think I'll go with that option.

    I just needed to vent!

    I'm thinking of stopping visitation actually, until we go to mediation. I am sick of him and his ways. Because this whole skipping visitation to punish me thing is ridiculous. He tells me visitation is a help to me!!! Well yes, but the purpose of it wasn't to do me a favour.

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    He's not enrolled in fdc, but I need to enrol as it seems. I thought we had agreed on not sending DS to daycare while he was young, but apparently not.

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    Please make sure you record all of this childish behaviour.

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    What an immature moron. Yep option 2.

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    My god, I wouldn't want to drop my child off with someone who so obviously has control issues. I would be looking at FDC for your tafe days, as I think this would be a safer environment.

    And I would be making a note of this interaction, as I think it's important to be raised at mediation.

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    Gish, I can't even imagine a 15 month old needing to be punished???

    My daughter is 15 months old!

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