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    Default Weekend away without DD

    DH and I are going away for a long weekend (3nights) soon and I am starting to feel really bad about it. DD is 2.5yo and my parents will be looking after her (at our house). She loves her grandparents and I know she'll have a great time.

    The problem is, my mum has made a few comments about it suggesting she doesn't approve of us going away for that long without DD. It's making me feel really guilty!

    Bub #2 is due in July so this will be the last time for a long time that DH and I can get away together and quite frankly I could use a few days of relaxation!

    Is 2.5yrs too young for us to be away from her for 3 nights?

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    I think it's up to you to decide if it's ok for your child, some kids would probably love a weekend with their grandparents, some might not. Only you know how your child will feel.

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    I think it depends on your child, for mine yes that would have been too long I think 2 nights would have been pushing it.

    Are you staying far from where your dd is ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by bunkx View Post
    I think it depends on your child, for mine yes that would have been too long I think 2 nights would have been pushing it.

    Are you staying far from where your dd is ?
    We'll be interstate. She has stayed with DHs parents at their house for 2 nights a couple of times when I had some surgery. She coped really well on those occasions. I know she'll have a lot of fun and we trust my parents 100%.

    I think I am just feeling bad due to a combination of mum's comments and knowing that I'll miss DD.

    But I am really looking forward to the weekend away!

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    So your mums looking after her, but still making negative comments? Is it too much for her perhaps?
    I think it's a very personal choice.
    For me, 1 night is all I can do without them.
    Do what you really feel comfortable with otherwise you won't enjoy yourself.

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    Don't let your mum make you feel bad about it. I'm sure your little one will be fine and you just need to relax and have a great time.

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    Ignore the haters! Only you know what's right and what you're comfortable with, and don't let anybody else ruin it for you

    Relax, enjoy and have a great time

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    Is your mum the one looking after DD? If so maybe she doesn't want or cant cope with DD for that long? If DD is with the inlaws ignore her and enjoy your trip! Im jealous!!

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    My DH and I did this last year just before bub 3 came along. We went to Sydney for 3 nights. My mum looked after both our girls 4 year old and 16 month old at our house. They all had a lovely time. It was lovely spending some quality time alone with DH, relaxing and not worrying about the girls.
    It sounds like your mum might not be able to handle it if she is making those comments.
    Enjoy your weekend away.

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    Thanks everyone. Both my parents will be here looking after DD and they have no problems handling her for a few days, so it's not that. I think my mum is just a bit funny about us going away because she never did it when I was little. But at the same time she loves looking after DD, so it's kind of mixed messages IYKWIM? Sometimes it's hard to win with her.

    I think once we're away I will relax, I certainly don't think it will do DD any harm.

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