+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12
Results 11 to 19 of 19
  1. #11
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Location
    Brisbane North
    Posts
    4,460
    Thanks
    1,581
    Thanked
    1,802
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    How disgusting. I would tell your family that you, you dh come as a team. either accept him or be prepared to lose you. I would not stand for it as their reasoning is so immature.

  2. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to GlitterFarts For This Useful Post:

    Happymum2  (17-03-2014),penny92  (22-03-2014)

  3. #12
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    4,322
    Thanks
    1,552
    Thanked
    2,539
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Sounds like your mum is very manipulative :-(

    Please don't tell your DH if you can help it, vent in here instead.

    It seems that your mum is trying to create drama and she would probably succeed if your DH were to hear what she says?...

    Also be careful about the reported feelings from others family members. Chances are she made it up or over exaggerated whatever they said. Maybe they said he's not as funny as some other clown - but that doesn't mean they don't like him.
    There are much much more qualities to a person than being funny.

    GBH
    Last edited by ExcuseMyFrench; 17-03-2014 at 20:50.

  4. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to ExcuseMyFrench For This Useful Post:

    CitrusRainxxx  (17-03-2014),HowCrazyCool  (17-03-2014),My Beloved Ones  (17-03-2014),Wally90  (17-03-2014)

  5. #13
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    4,589
    Thanks
    1,303
    Thanked
    2,569
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I sounds like your mum is playing mind games to me.
    Is it possible to talk to another trusted family member and see what is really going on?

  6. #14
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    468
    Thanks
    97
    Thanked
    315
    Reviews
    0
    Don't tell your husband. You're right, it will crush him.

    Knock back your mothers offers, let her know to stop kissing your ***. If she and your family take issue With your husband than they issue with you and your daughter. Stand up for him. Imagine if this was reversed and your husband was hearing this from his family. Your mother isn't respecting you or your choices and until such time she apologises and starts, I'd tell her to bugger off for a while.

    Blunt, I do apologise, but that's so not on.

  7. The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Bonezart For This Useful Post:

    babyla  (17-03-2014),cluckcluck  (17-03-2014),ertgirl  (17-03-2014),oozzle  (17-03-2014),penny92  (22-03-2014)

  8. #15
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    580
    Thanks
    176
    Thanked
    145
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Bonezart View Post
    Don't tell your husband. You're right, it will crush him.

    Knock back your mothers offers, let her know to stop kissing your ***. If she and your family take issue With your husband than they issue with you and your daughter. Stand up for him. Imagine if this was reversed and your husband was hearing this from his family. Your mother isn't respecting you or your choices and until such time she apologises and starts, I'd tell her to bugger off for a while.

    Blunt, I do apologise, but that's so not on.
    This!!!! How rude!

    Sent from my GT-I9505 using The Bub Hub mobile app

  9. #16
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Posts
    7,878
    Thanks
    3,397
    Thanked
    5,160
    Reviews
    8
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I wouldn't tell him.

    Id di also give your mum a wide berth for a while to get some perspective and time to reflect on how to not be a $hit stirrer.

    She should also apologise to you, it's not ok, it offensive and tell her that in no uncertain terms. Give her a no gossiping with other family members.

    How awful for your DH! It can be hard enough being an inlaw let alone being pitted against the "other" more "fun" inlaw.

  10. #17
    Join Date
    Dec 2013
    Posts
    682
    Thanks
    329
    Thanked
    379
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Thanks everyone. Can't really talk with anyone else as they all talk to each other so it will get back to them.

    It just makes me so mad that she thinks she can talk about him like that. He is the most beautiful person and she wad 100% correct when she said he was an amazing provider for our family! I just can't see why they can't see it. He is a bit shy at times but that is no reason to talk about him the way they have.

    I told her last night we were a package deal and that he was my husband and both he and my daughter come first now...went down about as well as a lead balloon!

    I am pleased you have all said not to tell him. It's eating me alive and I'm so pleased I can vent on here. Thanks for listening and algorithm your support!!

    Guess we will see how tomorrow night goes! Shall be interesting.
    Last edited by Wally90; 17-03-2014 at 21:09.

  11. The Following User Says Thank You to Wally90 For This Useful Post:

    ExcuseMyFrench  (18-03-2014)

  12. #18
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    Posts
    7,053
    Thanks
    6,263
    Thanked
    5,481
    Reviews
    4
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a weekBusiest Member of the Week - Most posts for the week ending 5/6/2014
    Oh wow

    My father disliked my now husband at first. We'd been together 4 years and were engaged and my dad was drunk and said he wouldn't allow me to marry him (in front of all of my family at a family gathering.) I told him to butt out that it wasn't up to him and that if he wants to be in my life, he needs to accept DH. It was full on and tense but I can happily say that my dad came around and now DH and I have been together for almost 11 years and my Dad gets along with him so well.

    As hard as it is I really think you need to stand by your DH 100% and make it clear that her attitude is not acceptable. And I also wouldnt fully believe that everyone has spoken about it behind your back...can you speak to your sister about it?

    Sent from my GT-I9505 using The Bub Hub mobile app

  13. #19
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    1,869
    Thanks
    879
    Thanked
    1,201
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    That's cr*p and it has a name- triangulation. I could understand if your dh was abusive and your mum was trying to bring it to your attention but it doesn't sound like that was the purpose. I wouldn't be able to go to family functions thinking that everyone disliked my partner. I would have to put it out there and ask. At least then you would know whether your mum is stirring or she was saying what your family feels. Don't spend months worrying about her comment- find out for yourself. You then know where you stand and I wouldn't be telling your dh- not for the meantime.


 

Similar Threads

  1. DS hates being touched by kids
    By Lambylamb in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 20-05-2013, 19:46
  2. anybody else out there that hates GLEE??
    By GlitterFarts in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 30
    Last Post: 24-04-2013, 16:46
  3. My baby hates the car..... help!
    By Hopefully Waiting in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 54
    Last Post: 11-04-2013, 16:59

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Babybee Prams
Save $50 in our pre-Christmas sale! All Comet's now only $500. Our bassinet & stroller set includes free shipping AUS wide, $75 free accessories, 18-months warranty & a 9 month free return policy. Check out our new designer range today!
sales & new stuffsee all
True Fairies
True Fairies is the first interactive website where children can engage and speak with a real fairy through the unique webcam fairy portal. Each session is tailored to the child, and is filled with enchantment and magic.
Visit website to find out more!
featured supporter
The Health Hub & Glowing Expectations
Glowing Expectations is conveniently located at The Health Hub in Darlinghurst. We offer pre & post natal personal training, small group pregnancy exercise classes, flexible mums & bubs sessions, massage, & naturopathy in our air-conditioned studio.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!