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    I used pt petrified of being home alone. What worked for me was
    Watching the same movie every night (it gets boring very quickly! Then I fall asleep!)
    Leaving the hallway and kitchen/lounge lights on
    Keeping external lights on so I could see outside if I needed too
    Knowing the neighbours (this is a good one)
    Keeping one of DH's golf clubs next to my bed!

    DH was away for a month and I got used to it very quickly. We know our neighbours very well which also makes me feel a lot safer. We have 3 sets of (nosey ) retirees around us, they noticed DH wasn't around and kept an eye on me/the house.

    I now relish if DH goes away, I get to watch movies in bed and have the whole bed to myself! Pity my dog barks all night when he's not there, she gets way overprotective and barks at everything!

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    thanks everyone, I'll try some of those tips.

    Unfortunately I don't have a tv in my bedroom & the couch is too short to sleep on so that is difficult. I do have a radio in my bedroom which I leave on overnight though.

    Hopefully I'll be able to get some sleep that night as my boss is coming to my office the next day so I'd rather not be walking around like a zombie.

    And now just what I need, my mobile is playing up. So hopefully there will be enough charge in the cordless home phone to leave it by my side all night. And of course I can't even buy a really cheap phone to use instead without buying a new SIM & paying for credit as well cause my current phone has a stupid micro-sim. Typical.

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    Install a lock on the inside of your bedroom door.. This put my mind at ease, knowing that if intruders came they'd have to bang around a lot to get to me!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    thanks everyone, I'll try some of those tips.

    Unfortunately I don't have a tv in my bedroom & the couch is too short to sleep on so that is difficult. I do have a radio in my bedroom which I leave on overnight though.
    Can you ask DH to drag the mattress out into the lounge for the week before he goes? We had to do this when we were getting our carpet replaced (insurance job so took ages). Not ideal but you'd have the telly and hopefully are closer to the phone?

    Also go to the shop and grab yourself some treats that you normally don't indulge in. Makes the time feel a bit more special if you're snacking on expensive ice-cream and choccy while indulging in movies
    Last edited by Pearlygirl; 17-03-2014 at 17:26.

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    thanks, I'll talk to DH

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    I know it's an extreme solution but my dog makes me feel much better - she sleeps outside my bedroom door and wouldn't let anyone except my husband
    And the kids through at night


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    Quote Originally Posted by OneArmedBandit View Post
    These are the cheapie ones that I mean, use them on windows, doors whatever. Just stick it on and your ready to go.

    http://www.bunnings.com.au/swann-mag...alarm_p4220354
    I have never seen these but I will be getting some on my next outing! Some great tips I'll be using too

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    Unfortunately I don't have a dog.

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    Do you feel comfortable sleeping in the loungeroom? Can you pull the mattress off the bed and sleep in the lounge on the floor with the TV on? I can't sleep in the loungeroom on my own, it's too open/too many windows/not my usual sleep space and that adds to my problem, so I'd personally listen to audiobooks on my phone, either with headphones or speaker.

    Honestly I've had nights before kids where I've slept with every light in the house on and I've forced myself to sleep with ceiling light on in the bedroom because I couldn't even sleep with a lamp on. But since having kids I have to keep the light low enough for them, but if DF is HOME but not IN BED, I'll put the bedside light on to sleep - or the hallway light on and the door open (but if he's watching tv and I need the door shut.

    Something, that sort of helped me, and I don't know if it'll help at all, but once I sort of got it into my head I could calm the panic attacks a bit, but recognising that the feeling comes before the thought and before the fear, like I was starting to have a panic attack feeling before I'd even get scared, so once I could acknowledge that it was even real, like it wasn't even a fear, it's a habit to respond that way to the dark, and just noticing myself doing that I can keep myself from going full-freak-out.

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    I feel the same way OP. I've only been at home alone once since DS was born. If DH has been away I usually stay at my olds. Things I find help are light hearted, funny movies, tv on, being on the phone to friends, making sure all curtains are shut before sun down, nice soulful food, my phone on me - I also have the help me app, created my Daniel Morcombes parents basically if you press it a map with your location is sent to 2 people you nominate and they contact authorities for you - very handy if you can't talk. I love the idea of the bunnings alarms and will be getting some. We have a huge dog who barks and I find that good too.

    http://www.danielmorcombe.com.au/app.html

    After spending a night by myself I did feel quite empowered.
    Last edited by babyla; 17-03-2014 at 18:58.


 

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