I'm feeling really down and need to vent. Thinking about this gives me extreme anxiety and keeps me up at night.
So, DP's mother is extremely nasty to me. She is an overbearing, *****y, negative, horrible person who is "always right". She is the kind of person who expects the gf of her son to be her best friend and hang out all the time.
I am the type of person who keeps to themselves, is very quiet and shy. I find it hard to speak up for myself. I am not interested in being chummy with someone who is so negative and nasty all the time.
Last September, we took MIL out for dinner. I do not invite her to the house because she never leaves. She immediately complains about the place even though she didn't have to pay for anything (so off to a bad start already).
Throughout dinner, she says nasty things about people, and is generally negative. I don't say much. I don't know what to say when she is being so nasty.
We leave and stand in front of the restaurant to chat for a bit. She made a comment about how good DP's hair looks and that I should grow my hair out because she doesn't want her son to have "an ugly girlfriend".
That's when I knew I had to speak up. I told her "Do not speak to me that way, I give you respect, I deserve it in return". She just laughs in my face and yells out to DP (he's at the car) that "I don't get their humour"???
I told her "don't laugh, I am being serious", but she wouldn't listen so I just gave up and walked to the car to leave. That's when all hell broke loose.
She runs up to me screaming (in front of everyone) "YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO ME, YOU'RE UGLY, YOU'RE UGLY, YOU'RE UGLY...GET OUT OF MY SON'S HOUSE...I NEVER WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN!!!" etc.
At this point she is right up in my face. I calmly tell her to back off and get into the car. She stood at my window and continued to scream at me (all while restaurant patrons are watching the commotion). She even tried to open my door at one point!!
She has not apologised to me and twists the story to make it like she is innocent. Ugh.
So now that I'm 11 weeks pregnant, I am dreading what is to come. DP's sister suggested that maybe the baby will bring MIL and I "closer together". I didn't say anything to that but thought, "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN BEING FRIENDS WITH A PSYCHOPATH".
DP even said he recently joked about me being pregnant (probably wanted to test the waters) and it caused another big fight between her and DP in public
I obviously do not want her anywhere near my child. DP still talks to her but doesn't go and visit. He hates being in the middle of things.
I don't know how to tell DP that I don't want his mother near my child. I'm sure it will cause a huge argument.
Please help. What should I do???
Thanks in advance