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    Default Egh feeling down

    Just feeling like everything coming out of my mouth, my actions everything is of no use, feeling like a ****ty mum. Dd1 just turned two and dd2 is nearly 4weeks. Juggling. My sis was here for two weeks, and everything was well when she left, mum then came for a few nights, and dd1 has been feral ever since. Not listening to me, tantrums, fighting nap time, and waking during the night, and getting a bit aggressive toward baby when she is feeling tired or wants me. Eghh. A mixture on being two, a new baby, and having people come n go im guessing. I've decided to not have anymore helpers stay, it's too disruptive, the help was good to have. Just getting a bit down on it with the behaviour change, and my lack of confidence is not helping, I tend to shut down, which is totally not good. How do you fight it??

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    Sometimes I have a big cry, sometimes I get out into the sunshine, sometimes I escape for a weekend to somewhere new. Sometimes I do a little retail therapy and then sometimes I hole myself up with a few movies, some totally unhealthy food and do the bare minimum. Whatever gets you through. Bug Big hugs.

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    Thanks for your response, getting away somewhere new sounds nice, as does a good cry. I went to the supermarket..... Not huge, but I felt a sense of accomplishment, it was our first solo shopping trip. Read dd1 her fave story, which Ive neglected lately, that helped too. How long does the jealousy of new sibling last? I yelled at her really angrily for kicking at the baby, that was after a number of things and it was my last straw.... How do you respond to these things? I don't want to make a strain on the relationship.

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    Not real sure on sibling rivalry. I have only the one child. Perhaps you could get her more involved in the day to day taking care of the baby- getting the nappies, feeding etc etc.

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    If you haven't already, buy a swing chair or similar that keeps DD2 off the ground at a higher level. This should give peace of mind and a little more safety for bub.

    When your DD2 is asleep, really focus on your DD1 - do something fun together. End the day with special 1:1 time if you can. This helped me.

    Hang in there, right now is the really tough part doing it on your own. It does get better xx

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    I find getting out of the house helps, when the walls are closing in I feel everything is magnified.

    My DD is two and I throw her in the push pedal bike and we go out for a walk till I feel happy again, DD loves it, the change of scenery does us both wonders, maybe put bub in a sling and do something similar.

    Hugs, it would be very hard with such a young baby and a two year old xxxx

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