I'm not sure where to go from here? What would you do if you had a dear friend, your young kids were very different personalities but got along well. You could open up to this friend, talk to her honestly and generally enjoy each others company. However the friendship is so competitive, it's exhausting.
There is no nastiness. We both just feel the need to be "one up" with each other. About everything.
Dh seems to think we clash personalities a bit - she brings out my competitiveness and so I play the game.
I do like her. She's my only 'friend'. I want her in my life I just don't like having to feel as if I can be just as good, or better.