I know that you need to find thier "thing" the one thing that they love etc that you can maybe take away from them. This too varies from day to day with DD. One day she cant live without her stuffed cow pillow. The next night you would think i have cut off her arm if i dont read her a story. She is just such a random little mite.
I told her last night that if she stayed in bed this morning, we would go to the park after i pick her up from childcare. She was super excited and it hasnt registered that we wont be going this afternoon..
I can just see the conversation this afternoon:
Mummy are we going to the park?
Nope - no park this afternoon
Because you got up at 4 am and ate a bunch of bananas this morning so we cant go to the park.
Thats. Not. Fair. (Sulks)
5 minutes later...
Mummy can we go to the park??
I guess it is just going to be trial and error until we one day stumble across the fact that she will behave like a little angel as long as we dont take away her purple sneaker or something random like that.