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    Default Pregnant with twins and freaking out!!!

    Hi all
    This is my first ever post. I'm a mum to 2y.o son and 11.5wks pregnant with fraternal twins. My husband and I weren't exactly trying to conceive so we are incredibly lucky but it has taken a while for me to adjust to the idea of having another baby, let alone to find out at 9 weeks that there are 2 babies!

    I feel overwhelmed with feelings of anxiety and fear - I know how hard it can be at times with one newborn let alone 2! I would love to hear from mums of twin babies and a toddler as to their experiences and any tips/tricks to help me feel more comfortable in settling 2 babies.

    I feel so guilty that I don't feel overjoyed by our pregnancy. I hope the happiness and excitement will come in time. Is it normal to feel like this?

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    First if all congratulations on your pregnancy, i have ID twin boys who are 3 years old and I have 4 other children as well. Although when I fell pregnant with my twins we weren't really trying to have another baby, but when we found out we were expecting twins it was a bit daunting but exciting at the same time. I think the unknown of what to expect when having twins is the most frightening part especially when your wondering how you will be able to deal with two plus a toddler, it's ok babies do sleep a lot at the beginning and if your able to get a routine in place it's nice to be organised. Also if your in doubt there are multiple birth groups around that are more than willing to give you information. My twins were born naturally at 36 weeks and my pregnancy wasn't too bad, I also breast feed my twins but it's entirely up to what you decide to do. If you have any other questions I'd be happy to try and answer them.

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    hi kate, congrats. take a look at my signature. I did the same thing, Had a toddler and then had twins. Three babies under two years. I didn't have time to panic, I found out I was having twins on the delivery table. I had four minutes to get my head around it. But everything was fine. born at 37 wks, no special care needed. I breastfed them for 9 months. Im happy to help with any questions, Good luck, Marie.

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    Hi there, don't panic, it's brilliant having twins! I don't have any other children, only our 8 month old twins. I can honestly, truly, really say that we have never had a sleepless night!! They have been a dream and as for settling, all we've done is pat them (because we could reach two at once!). They slept together for six months and now their cots are right beside each other, touching, so this helps with company and comfort.

    I'm still breastfeeding and this has been very successful for us with both girls feeding together. We give one bottle of formula in the evening to give me a break. This has worked really well for us.

    I know that all babies differ and whether its one or two, its sometimes the luck of the draw which difficulties arise, but please don't assume twins will be overwhelming. I was all prepared for a ridiculously hard ride but I can truly say it's been consistently busy, but definitely not anywhere near as hard as I predicted. We have no family at all nearby and DH and i have managed alone fine.

    I often say that I just do everything twice. It sounds obvious but it's just a constant rhythm and our girls are great at waiting patiently because they've always had to. Keeping them on the same routine if possible is the only way in my opinion.

    There are so many wonderful, special things about having twins that you won't mind the extra craziness once they're here.

    I'm happy to answer any practical questions on managing two anytime. Just PM.

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    Hi, I know it seems overwhelming, and it can be. But it is such a great thing as well, and as others have mentioned, you don't really have time to think about how overwhelming it is once they have arrived. I had a 3 year old when the twins were born, and then went on to have another after them so I had 4 under 4 years old, 21 months between the twins and my last.

    It is hard trying to entertain a young child when there are newborn twins to see to. So a couple of things that the twin mum groups told me. Get a slow cooker - it will become your best friend in those first 6 months

    Accept help if it is offered, join AMBA or another twin group for support. Get a really good pram - whatever the costs. Nothing worse that pushing a hugely heavy lump of a thing around with two kids in it.

    As PP said, it is the luck of the draw in terms of temperament, no point in stressing before they come, you could be one of the lucky ones to gets to content, laid back babies.

    Congratulations - exciting times ahead!!

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    Congrats! I conceived ID twin boys when my toddler was under 2. He was 2.5 when the twins arrived. I was very shocked to find out we were having twins and I can honestly say I didn't stop crying about it for a good couple of months. It may have taken me a little longer to bond with my twins but it happened, despite a really stressful pregnancy and all the worries. It's totally normal to be scared and anxious and natural to compare this experience to that of your first singleton, but you will get through it!
    I'd advise contacting the Australian multiple birth association and find out if you have a club nearby. They can sometimes have equipment handed down from other twin parents, can put you in touch with support services, run education sessions like breastfeeding twins, and you can meet other mums of twins or expecting twins. Good luck. It's hard but you will get through it!

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    Be organised with initial helpers if you can. Work out a routine. Feeding together cuts down overall time spent feeding, which can be about an hour when they're really little. The overwhelmed feeling will pass to some extent and after awhile of having twins, it will seem normal. You get quicker at doing things for 2 babies and the essential stuff just gets done and other things can just wait.
    Best of luck for a straight forward pregnancy.


 

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