Tamtam, we actually went away with my family for the first time last year for a week and I honestly wouldn't ask him to go any longer than that, it was even enough for me! I have previously been away with DH's family for 5 weeks. So I think I have been more than fair in the past!
Can you just go for a few days rather than the whole two weeks? And stay somewhere close, but not in the same room house or wherever you're staying? Like get your own unit a few doors over?
Just say you want bub to spend his first Christmas with your side too. So they get either Xmas or new year but not both. I think that's reasonable.
2 weeks. No way!
Apart from that, actually no that's it really.
Not a chance OP. You're not being unreasonable at all.
There would be no way in hell I would give up your first Christmas as family. Not for my family or his.
I think offer a week after. (not before as people can try and con him into staying) is more than reasonable.
I would want them to know it was my decision not to go. They need to know now before Bub is born that you are not a push over.
I'm dreading the holiday with my in laws. Haha but my FIL always books Holidays and then asks us to fit with them. . which just doesn't work with DHs holidays or mine used to be. So I've been saved so far!!
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I think your suggestion was reasonable.
I would not be willing to be away at Christmas...how far are they looking to go? Could you spend Chrissy brekky at home with your family and then drive to where they are going to be and stay till New Years??
I think your DH is being pretty mean about it...what type of man suggests he would take a new born away from his mum (and possibly only source of food) for 2 weeks...a low blow indeeed!
I've found that with my partner, it helps if I remind him that we (when baby comes) are our own family, so we will make our own traditions, maybe tell him some things you were thinking of doing as a new family, he lifts baby up to put the angel on the tree, or you and baby will put out biscuits for Santa and he gets to eat them, I know your baby will be young, but you could explain how excited you are about it, and that you'd like to start the traditions from the very first year??
2 weeks is a really long time for a family holiday IMO.
And for me personally I don't like the idea of being away from home on Christmas Day.
I think going for one week, either before or after Christmas, is perfectly reasonable.
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