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    We'll definitely be enforcing this rule. Well *I* will be, fortunately DP is supportive.
    My mum seemed a bit put out when I told her but she didn't argue, I haven't told the in-laws yet...
    I think baby coming out is just as private and intimate for DP and I as the baby going in, if you know what I mean
    I'd absolutely hate to have people waiting outside while I was in labour, it'd be so much extra pressure to perform!

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    I was pretty lucky in the fact DS was born at 2am - but this was after a 49 hour labour and we were so exhausted.

    DS was having trouble soon after so was taken to the SCN for 2 days to stabilize.

    I sent a message the following morning and didn't have any family come until after work that day which gave us time to bond. I did have a friend show up unannounced which I wasn't very impressed with and next time I might have to mention the "no visitors until we say so" in the text. I love her and I know she means well, but it was just too soon for me and with DS in special care it just wasn't easy.

    In saying that though - next time I want people to see us at the hospital rather than my house - but that's another story altogether!!!

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    Carribean - I hear where you are coming from... i am currently 31 weeks - and have been tossing this up for a while...
    We live a 3 hour drive from our families and I originally wanted a day or two to bond before visitors. But then I started to think that maybe it's better to let MIL in law in for a 30 min visit while we're at hospital rather than get the extended visit (maybe even overnight stay) at home??

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    Oh - could you imagine? Actually resting after having a baby! That would be so nice!

    The nicest thing anyone did after we had an e-csection with our first was that she said "Let me know when you're up for a visit". It was great as I felt physically sick for weeks afterwards and my folks came to stay to "help" as soon as I got home from hospital. Needless to say we were looking after them too as guests as they didn't lift a finger to help - no washing, cooking, vacuuming.

    I was still in and out of conciousness when visitors came up to visit after our first - I never said for them to come, they just turned up.

    My MIL on the other hand is welcome anytime as she is so helpful - but left as soon as we came home with DD as she didn't want to be in the way!

    I don't get offended if people aren't up for a visit in hospital. Some people like visitors straight away and other people like them after a few days to settle in. I always give the option and ask whether they want a visit there or when they get home.

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    Thanks all for the supportive comments, restraining visits has got me thinking about all sorts of things! Im totally over protective already and know I dont want people constantly holding my baby for extended periods, its my baby!

    I read ages ago someone had created a little poem and attached to the hospital crib saying not to hold. Has anyone done this or something similar?

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    Can I just ask why you don't want anyone to hold bub?

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    Not entirely sure, jealousy? I dont think id mind short holds just long ones main concern is my MIL and SIL. MIL is baby obsessed and Im sure Ill have to fight to hold my own child when she is around
    Im very independent, hate being told how I should be doing, even if its wrong Id like to try my way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wishnhope View Post
    Thanks all for the supportive comments, restraining visits has got me thinking about all sorts of things! Im totally over protective already and know I dont want people constantly holding my baby for extended periods, its my baby!

    I read ages ago someone had created a little poem and attached to the hospital crib saying not to hold. Has anyone done this or something similar?
    The best way to avoid 'pass the baby' is to keep the baby on your breast - surely nobody would come between a baby and it's boobie
    I was lucky as DD came early so we didn't tell anyone, just soaked up her goodness all to ourselves!

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