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    Default Dealing with disappointment and feeling down

    Hi guys thought i would just post a quick message.
    We received a BFN last week and i have to say this week i am struggling. We have now completed 4 fresh IVF cycles. 3 at MIVF and just recently 1 at Monash. I am beginning to wonder if it will ever happen for us.
    Its so disappointing to go through the whole process, the procedures, jabs and the 2ww only to have hopes dashed again. Unfortunately I'm sure many of you can relate.
    DH is very positive and will have us doing IVF forever but i am feeling overwhelmed and disheartened.
    I dont think you realise the emotional toll the process takes until you finish a cycle.. I am normally pretty positive but have been feeling overly emotional and sensitive at the moment. I am 39 and fall short of the over 40 categories on here, so feeling a little isolated too. DH and I have also been fighting lately which does not help because he is wonderful and I am lucky to have him - i think we are both feeling the stress and stupid things are becoming bigger than they should ..Sorry to whinge I'm having a poor me moment… Maybe this thread can be a thread to vent then move on…in fact i feel better already. I like putting this little emoticon guy up

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    Hugs Babee

    This journey is so, so hard, physically, mentally and emotionally. It certainly does take it's toll on relationships too. I'm really feeling for you......

    I'm 39 too (nearly 40), and have found the over 40s threads very helpful and supportive. Don't feel that you won't be welcome there. Particularly if your infertility is likely to be age related, it's definitely worth joining those threads.

    I am one of the lucky ones who after 8 cycles has a DS and am 32 weeks pg but I still remember wondering if it was ever going to happen. I was eventually dx with adenonmyosis (endometriosis) in the uterus. Apparently it's quite difficult to diagnose but after 6 months treatment I fell pg with ICSI (mfi too). Vent away, I hope you get the support here that you need.

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    @Octoberbaby2010 thanks so much for your message. I love that you have your DS and another on the way. It really gives me hope. Some of the other threads I am on move so fast it's hard to keep up. I don't want to bring everyone on the thread down by expressing that I'm finding it tough at the moment either. Which is why I started my own.You are strong doing the 8 cycles (I'm assuming more given you are now pregnant again) We have an appointment with our FS tomorrow and will keep going. My DH is 5.5 years younger and determined to succeed. We don't really have any other choice but to persevere. I will pick myself up again just feeling unmotivated in general at the moment.. This week someone mentioned to me that they were holding off on cycling again because they didn't want a Christmas baby and it blew my mind.. We would kill for a baby... Crazy .

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    Totally get how u feel right now babee, I'm feeling rather tired and emotional too feel free to pm me anytime. Last few days have been a struggle to even get to work, I think I have depression comments like that annoy me too, Christmas baby what a blessing!!

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    Babee ivf will probably be one of the most difficult things I ever persevered with, we did 6 Stims in a row that all produced bfns. My fs really had no hope either towards the end. Plus I went to see 3 more doctors a couple of months before turning 42 and they weren't at all positive about my chances. I suggest you get on the over 40s thread too, you will find it very supportive and a great source of information. Ivf is a hard journey and recently there was an article in The Guardian about the emotional toll it takes on couples. They put it up there with cancer sufferers experience. Now more than ever you need to talk about how you feel. I know when I joined bub hub I was at the point where I could no longer do it alone.

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    @BooBoo @Teampanda
    Thanks for your support guys. We had a meeting with our FS today and I feel better than I have in a while. We are moving onto a FET cycle this month. Our FS says frozen embryos have a 4% higher chance of working out.. Not huge but I will take it. Team panda are you still going through cycles? Any luck?
    Booboo I know what you mean about anti depressants. I told DH I thought I needed them. Don't give up though it's amazing how things can change. I feel like I have now processed the failed cycle and am moving on. I hope anyone reading this feels happy to vent their frustrations or concerns on this thread . I find it really helps xx

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    Babee I'm 32 weeks pregnant so basically didn't listen to a word all those specialists said to me and continued onto stim cycle no 8 which gave me this bfp.

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    Team Panda that is awesome! Congratulations and good luck!! Let's us know what you have x

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    Hay guys. Hope I can join u. I find these forums a little scary. I'm 35 partner 37 He has low motility. Has taken us 3 years to work that out:-/. Have had our first fs appointment at westmead just waiting for nurse interview. And I am already a negative freak. 2 of my close friends have just had babies and I find myself avoiding them. I am detoxing which is so boring. Ha ha. I just want to have a drink. Having doubts about every thing. I guess it's because this is it. Ahhhh. Do the drugs make the emotional roller coaster worse? Will I ever be my old self? Sorry to winge so much. Hope it all works out for all of I very soon.
    P.s. Sorry not sure of all the jargon. And my spelling is not that great. Ha ha:-)

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    Glad to hear u r feeling a bit better babee, I've also heard some have better results with FET, gl next round. I am not on antidepressants but sometimes I wonder if I need them. Team Panda u r nearly there wish u all the best with the birth, do u know what u r having?

    Welcome Sarah, wish u the best of luck. Some people don't suffer too much from the meds, I can't say I did really. Had a few headaches here and there but nothing major. The worst part for me was the waiting after egg collection, wondering how many eggs r mature, how many will fertilise, how many will make it to transfer. It sure is a roller coaster, but have found this forum very supportive and I'm sure u will too. I know what u mean about pregnant friends or those that have just had babies, I have 3 close friends pregnant, one only took a few mths to conceive, so jealous but also happy for them. It's not always easy being around them but I don't push myself if I'm struggling I just see them when I can


 

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