I'm not sure of the extent to which these feelings are normal, or if I'm just totally crazy. Sorry this is long!
Our baby isn't due for another few months but I'm already feeling weirdly over-protective to the point of possessive with him.
Both my family and DP's are perfectly nice, good people, there's no one I don't actually like or have any issues with. But it makes me really anxious and uncomfortable to think that all of these people are going to want to be involved in his life, and visit us, and hold him and touch him.
I'm already quite adamant that I don't want visitors for the first couple of days (which I think is not unreasonable), but if it were really up to me I'd extend that to the first several months.
And when people we're not even that close to say things like they're excited and look forward to meeting him, I just think "why would you be excited, this is none of your business, and what possible interest would you have in seeing our baby?"
(And no, I never have any interest in meeting other people's newborns - sure they're cute, and I'm happy for the parents, but I don't get why I would need to see or hold their baby?)
Once they're up and walking/talking/actually interacting with other people, then I have no issues whatsoever, and I'm happy to send him off to the grandparents or wherever in a year or so. But when he's so little, he's my baby and I don't want him to be anywhere other than with me. ...Or with DP, if he's lucky
So other than being a very introverted, private person, and having a general weakness in understanding social norms and expectations, I really don't know why I feel so strongly about this. I know our families will love him and care for him, and probably not drop him or sneeze on him or steal him or be disrespectful of our parenting choices, or do anything else bad that I can think of.
I really need to get over this or I'll have such a horrible time in those first few months, I don't actually want to forbid other people from holding him! But I have no idea how since I don't really know where this is coming from in the first place