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    Default Our lovely elderly cat...What would you do?

    I've been struggling to think what is best for our old boy, and am so conflicted.

    Bit of background...
    Around a year ago we had a cat appear on our doorstep, and the moment I opened the door he sauntered in and settled himself on the couch. He's still here lol.
    We already had a cat, a boy (no bits!) who had been hand reared. He's partly siamese, so a bit of a prima donna. The intruder took one look at our boy(Gizmo) and went for him big time.
    Anyway, the intruder (Wombat as he's now called) was well fed so had an owner, but he wouldn't leave. We did a letterbox drop, signs around the area, and took him to the vet down the road. He had no microchip, and a notice was put up there, but he was never claimed. The vet said he is around 13 yrs old, Russian/British Blue, but may have been a breeder as he is not desexed. He also can't be desexed now as the vet feels it would kill him. He's old, broken some teeth, and generally healthy but near the end of his road.
    So we kept him, as he obviously wasn't going anywhere lol.

    The problem is, he seriously wants to kill our cat Gizmo. And pretty much any other cat. Gizmo just wants therapy and valium
    The boys are both indoor cats, but have to be completely seperated, so Gizmo is in while Wombat is out, and vice versa.
    As Wombat can't be desexed he is reacting to Gizmos prescence inside by spraying. And Gizmo has also done this once or twice, which he normally wouldn't.
    Wombat is just the most cuddly, gentle lap cat who we all love, and he is extremely attached to us, especially the baby. He has a kennel filled with blankets (& hotty bottle in winter) on the deck, as he can't stay inside without peeing everywhere Gizmo has sat or slept. He wont use kitty litter as its more a territory thing.

    None of us want to rehome him, but I keep bringing it up as he needs more. He needs to be with someone that has no other pets, and will allow him to live inside. His joints are old and I know he gets stiff and sore when its cold, which is often in Tas. I hate telling him no when he tries to come in when Gizmo is already in there, cats don't understand taking turns!
    I keep thinking how much I want him here for his last years (last months most likely), and that he wants to be with us.

    But it's not fair on him to have to sit outside all the time, and to sleep outside. I worry his joints hurt, and that he's cold. I feel like crying just writing that.

    So I'm really leaning towards rehoming him. But how? He needs a special person who will adore him, and Im worried someone would just take him for his breed, as the vet said he's worth several hundred dollars. We plan on gifting him to the right person, along with several cases of his fave food, bed and bedding etc.

    HTH do I find someone?

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    I love cats and am all teary just reading your post

    I would post an ad on Facebook saying pretty much what you have said in your post and see who contacts you, it's going to be hard though even if you find that special person but agree it would be terribly hard to leave him out in the cold. No wonder you are broken up, has the vet tried him on some sedatives to calm him down abit?

    God it's a hard one, feeling bad for both boys and your family xxxx

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    I would either rehome him through a specific breed rescue society or the RSPCA or I would seek a second opinion from a different vet about desexing him. Obviously I don't know what your vet found when he examined him but 13 or 14 is not that old and I would still happily anaesthetise that majority of cats that age (mostly for dentals). You could also look at things like a Feliway dispenser - it releases happy hormones that can help with behaviour.

    Personally I don't like advertising 'free to good home' because I feel that people that are willing to pay for animals (doesn't have to be a lot) tend to value them more.

    Good luck - he sounds beautiful.

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    Do you not have a second bathroom or laundry or something he can be contained in at night? Re homing him when he is old and frail might be very hard on him. The poor little guy, I'm so sorry, it must be a hard decision. I'm thinking if you think he only has a few months is there any other alternative to giving him away iykwim? Do you have family that might take him in? It is hard to rehome adult cats but even more so a cat that is elderly and not de sexed. My DH used to have purebred rag dolls that happily slept in a large indoor pen at night- is that a possibility?

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    Agree with the above poster, have full bloods done on him to see how his liver/kidney function is going and if aok go ahead. Cat castration is a quick procedure so it's worth the risk if it means he can be suitably rehomed or continue living with yourselves. Also the feliway diffusers are certainly worth a try and giving the cats some beds off the ground is useful so they feel less threated from each other and have somewhere to retreat to(such as cat trees with the beds on the tops).
    Maybe worth speaking to another vet for a second opinion as well as someone who'd be more comfortable doing the castration on him at his age may be a better option. You can also request he goes onto iv fluids whilst he's there to help support his liver and kidneys with excreting the drugs which can also help him recover quicker.
    It sounds like your doing the absolute best for him just by taking him in and trying to find his owner. I'd avoid mentioning anything of his breed if you do decide to advertise him as this should stop "breedists" (lol) from applying. Maybe you could try a local cats protection society for some advise as they may know of some good ideas on how to find that right person for him. It's sounds like a tough choice whichever you end up doing-but you e done more than most would do so be proud of yourself and hopefully everything turns out well for you all. I have 2 cats (out of a 3 cat household ) that can't stand each other, with time they have learnt to tolerate each other but they have to be fed in seperate areas, beds in seperate areas and can't be given attention within close proximity of each other or they strike out! We have all learnt to live with each other but they certainly do not like, and never will, each other!!

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    I used to have a Russian blue when I was a kid.

    He was one of the loves of my life.

    If I was alone (coz hubby would never agree) I'd take him off your hands.

    Hope you find him a home soon x

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    I just wanted to say don't take him to the RSPCA or pound at that age and behavior you have described his chances of passing their behavior tests is minimal and then someone adopting an older cat even less. I'd also agree with those who've said get a second vets opinion re castration. All the best and good on you for being kind enough to want to do right by this poor cat

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    There is an awesome product called "feliway" you can get it at pet supply stores and vets I'd go with the plug in the wall option personally.

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    Thanks so much everyone, I'm sitting here in the dark on the deck with him now lol.

    You have all given me some fantastic options, and I will definitely look into every single one.
    We think his issues with other cats are twofold, and have a feeling he may have had an elderly owner that passed away, who he was very attached to. It would explain the lack of microchip and the fact that he simply turned up and moved in, but was obviously not a stray. So we think that he was the only pet, and very possesive of "his" home. So when he picked a new home, that became "his" too...so our little boy Gizmo was not part of the plan.

    His reaction to Gizmo is full on. We've had cats before, and I grew up with many as my grandmother would foster the ones that needed TLC before going to a new home. But this is bizzare.
    He's quiet, very slow, and sleeps both days and nights away. But if he sees Gizmo, there is not a sound-he just flys at him. When I was pregnant, I went to let Gizmo out the door without checking if Wombat was near. Wombat went mental, and I grabbed Gizmo up high to get us through the door, to seperate them. Wombat jumped up on me, claws out, and took a huge chunk of skin of my 7mths pg belly. I have four huge scars going from near my ribs, down past my bellybutton. Normally he struggles to jump up on the couch!

    Im afraid we dont really have a room to put him in here, the house is actually an old shack....its miniscule! So there are no doors, as it's all open of the lounge. The bathroom has a sliding door, and I popped him in there a bit during winter, but as he refuses to use litter I'd cover the floor with newspaper. I will look into the indoor pen, thats definitely worth a try!

    I like the sound of feliway, I'll check that out asap. I am definitely going to get a second opinion on desexing him. Like some of you have said, theres more risk with dental treatment, which is something i was going to look into as he has a broken tooth. That would be fantastic if I can, as it would hopefully go a long way to stopping him marking his territory.

    Thankyou SO much everyone! It's given me hope that we can try everything possible to keep him, considering he's the one who adopted us

    I might see if I can get a photo of him up, he's a bit of a camera tart and poses on command

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    Ask your vet about anti depressants for cats. My brother's cat has just started taking them because he's a former stray who the vet thinks was taken from his mother and siblings before he'd learnt to play and socialise without hurting other cats. He swipes at people too, often hurting them. We'll see how he goes on the meds but I've heard they can help immensely,


 

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