DS (3.5) and I were at my parents today and as soon as we got there DS' eyes lit when he saw some left over cans of wall paint and tools that my parents have been using to do a little renovation. He had fun being given some paint and brush to have a taste test painting on some left over wood pieces... But i didnt expect that ds, being a super curious and DEMANDING little monkey usually would ask for more paint and started to make a big mess in the backyard basically painting over the patio etc... My mum later started grabbing and pulling the whole paint can from him because apparently she wouldnt give him more, but the scene where he made a huge fuss out of it became embarassing later on where my parents next door lady came out to take a peek and my mum wouldnt stop raising her voice and calling him naughty boy numerous times and ds cries didnt subside for an hour till he passed out by himself on the couch!
I had a good lecture from mum this arvo saying what an obedient kid my little one has turned into and its all my fault that i perhaps always caved in to him and gave him everything.
Well.. Raising a kid is never easy.. There are many many times ds loves ignoring me and i have no choice but to let him do it because he knows his tantrums etc would get him whatever he wants, even his fave toy wouldnt win him over... And if i caved in, usually that would be a win-win situation for us ie. he would stop throwing tantrums (peacefulness for me) and he gets to do whatever he wants as long as its not a life threatening stuff... But in the end i always know that he has no disciplines!
My mum always says i always appear too easy on him.. He knows that and he takes it for granted... She says this path leads to raising a disobedient child ....do you agree?
Oh... The word "naughty" has easily slipped out my mothers mouth these past few months directed towards my son... I never see him as naughty.. He's just ..uhm..needs more time to learn. i think i speak from the softest part of my heart as a mum.