No, I wasn't there and no, noone can prove absolutely that it wasn't an accident. But can you honestly say that a 15 yr old boy, no matter his background didn't know what he was doing? Absolutely they are still a child, and often lack the ability to make a good judgement about a situation, but he had been around the baby and involved in its care for a month.
The baby was still in hospital, most likely out of special care and rooming in with the parents in preparation for going home. But in NICU or Special Care, they don't care if you are 15 with your first child, or like me, 37 with my fourth. You get the same support and the same education, and believe me there is a hell of a lot relating on how to hold or comfort your child, and on what to do/not to do. And there is no way you don't take ANY of it in.
Like I said, had this had happened at home with a baby that had not been in hospital for a month, I can see how a severely damaged 15 yr old could easily snapped. It's absolutely tragic, and it happens.
Do I know of both mums and dads in this sort of situation? Yep, a number of them. My family did fostering. I've been in a womens shelter for several months, and got to know a number of the at risk teenage mums and their boyfriends/ex-boyfriends. My dad worked at a mens homeless shelter, then at the male young offenders home here for 10 years. My husband spent a year in prison for gambling debts which I rarely speak about, and very quickly learnt how easily it is to mis-judge people.
So funnily enough, we don't judge. Because we both personally know rock bottom. My DHs closest friend in prison (and a truly lovely man) is there for murder. I know his story, and I know the extreme abuse he suffered from his adopted parents.
And we are the lucky ones. We know a number of people who have been through things that most people couldn't imagine. My DH carries with him some truly horrific things he has heard and seen, and both of us have seen what an abusive childhood can do to someone.
I also have a nearly 15 yr old. So seeing this boy is that age does not make me think he did not know what he was doing, when he waited until he was alone with the baby. I'm ok being judged on that. And you know what? I hope I'm wrong, I really do. Because the alternative is just incomprehensible.
Also, I don't think anyone actually said he was a 'monster'? If he did do it with thought, then he desperately needs help. But monsters are those that my DH saw day in day out who were true sociopaths. Men often from good backgrounds, stable childhoods, who are often in positions with authority, who talk openly about things they have done that would destroy your faith in humanity.
Campaign, volunteer or donate? Yep, I think it's something that everyone should do at least once. We did before we actually experienced what it is like to be homeless, and have nothing, and we still do, but more so directed at the services and needs that are not so visible, and are badly neglected. To those of you who wonder if even a small donation helps, it does, and I thank every one of you