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    Default People treat you how you allow them to treat you

    People treat you how you allow them to treat you.

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    Basically true but I feel it is simplifying more complex issues...

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    Pretty much but some people are really just plain old ar$eholes!

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    Yes I agree. If someone has the balls to stand up to a person that treats them horribly then said behavior won't continue.
    - that being said I get that there are certain situations where it is easier said than done to make a stand.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peanutmonkey View Post
    Basically true but I feel it is simplifying more complex issues...

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    This.

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    The behaviour most certainly can continue if you stand up to someone. It may even get worse.

    I agree with the person who said it oversimplifies complex issues.

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    I was horrified when I read that elsewhere here. I think it's possibly true when there is no imbalance of power in a relationship, but at its extreme I feel that it's victim blaming. Imagine a victim of childhood sexual abuse, or domestic violence reading that kind of comment? Sorry to sound so humourless, but I guess I feel strongly about this one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrsharvey View Post
    I was horrified when I read that elsewhere here. I think it's possibly true when there is no imbalance of power in a relationship, but at its extreme I feel that it's victim blaming. Imagine a victim of childhood sexual abuse, or domestic violence reading that kind of comment? Sorry to sound so humourless, but I guess I feel strongly about this one.
    I actually hadnt looked at it from that angle, that's a good pointa

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    I've seen this said a few times on here, and given there seems to be a lot of threads lately about women with husbands that are abusing them in some way I thought it would be interesting to get everyone's perspective.

    I agree with others so far. I do have a tendency to agree, when you don't stand your ground people will keep treating you badly bc there is no consequences to their actions. But.... I also think it can be victim blaming sometimes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    The behaviour most certainly can continue if you stand up to someone. It may even get worse.

    I agree with the person who said it oversimplifies complex issues.
    Yes but you can choose to remove yourself from the situation (most times, although I agree it is not always easy for some).


 

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