I never ever wanted kids. I am (currently- my parents are young) the eldest of 18 (mum had 5) so being around kids all the time, and working in childcare, was enough.
But H so obviously loves kids and yearns for more, and I'm not AGAINST it exactly, that I just couldn't say no.
Ideal number, everything being able, is 4. But H already has two and they have to be included purely because of financial reasons (and because I adore them of course!), so technically this is #3.... but it's not
I think we may have one more, and that will be our budget max. Which is sad as I am only 27 and the thought of "being done" so early is sad, especially as I was coming around to having 4...
Oh well. Life.
ETA: H's age is also a consideration. I mean, ya, I have to carry them so 27 is fine, but at 43 and not very good at home, it can only get worse as he gets older...
Last edited by DT75; 16-12-2015 at 10:27.
I always planned on kids, but am tossing up on how many I actually want. Before my first child, I said 4, maybe 5 (partner is from a family of 5) after my first I said 4. Now I'm pregnant with my 2nd and it's dropping down to 3. My thinking is we will have one of each after this point, but I don't feel done. If we have 3 then we can still have a nice sedan to get around in, won't need a massive house, and I feel like I would still be able to relate to my kids more. I'm not judging anyone for having a lot of kids at all, I just think that is what would be best for our family.
Here I am thinking my family is going to be large.. Im pregnant with my 3rd at the moment and it was not planned at all. Didn't want any more kids as I already had my pigeon pair. It has grown on me now but it's still shocking to me. It will be my second to dp. No more kidlets after this one though. I might add that I had mine fairly young. I was 17 when I had my ds and 19 when I had dd and 21 when this little one arrives. Dp will be 26
I didn't plan on a big family till I had DD then realized its wonderful and I wanted more!
We started at 28, now I'm 33 and I have two kids... No contraception since just hasn't happened as fast... I'm not sure a big family is possible now, on one hand id say I wish I'd started earlier but I don't think I was ready.
Things rarely go as planned with family planning so one has to keep in mind it might take longer than anticipated to have a certain number of kids.
I recently found out I was expecting baby number 4, pregnancy number 3 since last time we had twins. I never planned on being a large family but having 2 at once changed that for me!
I didn't think I would hsve 4 kids (and want more). I had my first child at 22.
i never thought about children married at 17
we now have ds 17 ,ds 15 , dd 12 , dd 8, dd5 , dd3 . ds 11 months and i am 35 few that sounds like loads lol i think i would have 1 more
I had my first at 23. I am now 29 and they are 6, 4, 3 and 2. We are trying for one more if my cycle ever returns which seems forever away at this point. I would easily go for up to 8 if hubby let me but I think he is being awfully generous agreeing to number 5. He originally wanted 2...
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