Ok, so a bit of a vent/am I being over reactive? DF is currently working away 5/2, so only home 1 and 1/2 days every week, although he has been chucking a sickie every Monday and having the extra day off. I am a stay at home mum to 3 kids (3 1/2, 19months and 4months), but I feel like I'm being treated like a slave, baby sitter and housekeeper. The amount of fights that we have over these issues is unbelievable and starting to have a toll on everyone. He seems to think that since I'm home everyday and only have the kids to look after I should have the house sparkling and basically like a display house. He thinks that my whole time should be whole and solely dedicated to cleaning the house and looking after the kids, if I mention that I have been to the park with friends or playgroup he gets really stroppy and makes me feel bad and makes snide comments that I should be home cleaning the house. He came home last night to a house in reason all condition, a few dishes to wash, a few things on the floor, but overall the house was relatively clean (did a big clean the day before), but not even 2 minutes in the house and he is having a dig at me for the state of the house. Fast forward a few hours and the eldest comes down with a vomiting bug, I stay up all night with her, plus deal with the babies waking up in the night, all 4 of us were in the nursery. So when he gets up this morning I just wanted an hours sleep so that I could start cleaning up the mess and get greeted with that's what having kids is about, you don't get to rest, I'm going fishing (yes planned, but over night won't be home till late tomorrow) so I'm like just let me have an hour sleep to refresh, but he was adamant that he had things to do so that he could go fishing! I feel like we all come second to his precious fishing and apparently he is caring for his children by going to work to give them a roof over their head and food, and it's not his fault he has to work away and then makes plans to spend the whole weekend (his only days off fishing). Am I right for over reacting and chucking a stink for not getting my sleep.
I don't expect anything of him when he gets home, he doesn't have to help clean, doesn't have to help with the kids, unless he offers to do it, I do all his washing, pack his bags ready for him to go away again, do any administrative things that needs to be done, do 95% of the cooking. He tells me that I'm over reacting and if I had the house clean and spotless and everyone in a happy mood when he got home there would be none of this fighting about the state of the house. Is that a fair call cause I'm a SAHM, with 3 kids under 3? I feel like a failure and that I'm no good for anybody any more
Sorry for the long novel!