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    i have said hi to him just not right there when hes in the room. So I'll try doing that. I just felt like I'd be barging in on the convo. They do socialize outside of work because that's what part of their convo was at one stage. Him asking my roomie to come over for dinner. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and hope he just takes time to warm up to me. I will purposely say HI X when he walks in. What do you think?? I almost felt like saying should I say I'm a lesbian to fit into your convo...but obviously that would never have gone down well hahaha. I felt like it tho.

    Everyone else is so nice just him that makes me feel excluded. My roomie said it'd be nice to do something at some point with ppl from work. No date given. She's honestly the sweetest. I'm glad I share a room with her ans not him and thankfully he only comes in to see her for a few mins a day

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    Yeah I think that's a good idea, be as open and friendly as possible, then if he still seems to have an issue with you, then that's his problem entirely.

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    Quote Originally Posted by risfaerie View Post
    Maybe he lacks confidence? I know that I have a tendency to appear unintentionally arrogant when I am actually freaking out on the inside. I don't mean it, it just happens.
    Yep this is me too!! I am so shy that it comes off as arrogant. I never realised until I became friends with someone from work and she told me I came off as a real arrogant b!sh to begin with. But it is just shyness.

    So it could be that? Maybe if you hang out outside of work in a group setting and relax a bit it might change? I hope so! Good luck x

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    I don't think it's a sexuality thing OP. He could just be the type to be a bish to people he deems to be an outsider. I've worked with people like this before, they're immature and rude. They can normally be killed with kindness. Them once you're mates tell them how awful they are to newbies and never let them live it down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Allie Pallie View Post
    I thought gay men hated lesbians?? No seriously, my gay boss tells me this all the time....
    from my experience/observation of gay and lesbian's (I socialised within that world once upon a long time ago), the gay guys and the lesbians I knew got along really well. I think it can be a bit brother and sister-ish. Some get along, some don't.

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    Desperately...you are so on the money about brother/sister thing. That's what it's like!! At first I thought he had a crush on roomie abd told her...then she's like no, he's gay hahah what a way to find out! But he talks to her ans comments on what she's wearing, like he does have a crush.. But no I think it's just like he teases her as if she were a sister. They have a really nice fun relationship. All your input has been very helpful indeed. I hope he doesn't feel this way because I'm not gay. Otherwise that's a bit unfair!! Especially because as I said, my roomie and I are already like besties.

    I too am shy. I do lack self confidence also. And am quite sensitive. But once I am comfortable I just it all hang out so to speak. Fingers crossed I can turn X around haha. He seems like a top bloke when he interacts with ppl he 'likes' so hopefully I can warm him up too lol

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    Id start with a round of coffees and cupcakes

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    Well I have got him coffees and he is appreciative actually thinking back to that it was for a meeting with someone. Which is good. I should find out what his fave thing to eat is haha. Maybe I am being a bit over sensitive...but that thing about not interacting with me at all when I was in that small office with the three of them was a bit much. I'll keep you posted and see what I can do lol

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    Good luck!

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