My Dad has offered to pay for me and my brothers/sisters and our partners and children to go to Bali.
DH and I don't want to go. Reasons:
1 - DHs brother in law (from first marriage) died over there during the Bali bombings. And it's put him off ever since. Totally understandable.
2 - I'm pregnant.
It's more so the first reason than the second as I feel I could keep myself "healthy" whilst over there, been many times and never been sick but of course the risk is high and I would never forgive myself.
Now my dad knows about DHs feelings about Bali, they have taken the family there before and we haven't been.
I'm just a little upset that the same place has been offered again even though they would have known we wouldn't be going.
I'm not being spoilt, I don't expect a different holiday in return but i know this is something they will do every few years and we will always decline. Am I being unreasonable in wondering if a different destination could be offered?
It's more so that whenever we decline my family will always pipe up and say "well you and the kids can come and DH can stay at home"
I would never dream of going without DH, he is my family and I wouldn't want to go without him. Not to mention the amount of anxiety that would put him through, knowing we are there. He would worry to much.
I just wish they would lay off and accept that we will never go to Bali.
I am just having a little rant more than anything but I just wanted to know how others would feel?
I totally get that it is 100% our choice in not going and the others shouldn't miss out given our fears but I just thought maybe they could do something with us at a different time? Or maybe see if we could all agree on a place to go?
I guess I just feel a little left out.
DH, Me and our two boys.
#3 due 30th Sept