What age do you think it's ok to smack a child...when do you start when do you think it needs to stop?
Depends on the child.
How do you smack? Hands, spoon etc?
Hands. On occasion I will make dd1 go and get the wooden spoon but the action of getting it is enough and it's not used.
Should it hurt them?
No, it shouldn't HURT them. My kids get a good tap, not enough to actually hurt but enough that it gets their attention. It's more a shock when they are at that point where I need to smack "oh crap mum means business".
Should it leave a mark?
No. Sometimes it does leave a red mark but is gone within a few seconds.
Should you explain why before or after or not at all?
They get several warnings before, if nothing else has worked, and afterwards I do try to talk to them about why i did it.
If they do not listen after being smacked what do you do next?
It normally does the trick. In the rare occasion they still continue with the behaviour they are sent to their room and told if they continue they will get another smack.
What are some examples of reasons why you would smack?
If all other methods (redirection, warnings, time out, removal of toys/tv etc) have failed. I really do only try to use it as a very last resort.
if you were given resources to implement that would effectively discipline your child without smacking would you use them?
As mentioned our family only tries to use it as a last resort so we do try to use other forms of discipline.
Me + he = dd1 (July 07), dd2 (July 10), dd3 (August 13), dd4 (due may 14)