I tried using a single smack to the clothed bottom when my child was around 2. She was repeatedly climbing onto the table and risking falling onto our hard floors. At the time I felt like I had tried everything else (redirection, time out, removing toys, yelling, etc)
It was terrible. Not only did it do nothing to stop the undesirable behavior she then started hitting us and also the dog.
I was studying teaching at the time and reading about using positive reinforcement for behavior management so decided to give it a try. It took a big mental shift to make sure I noticed and rewarded the positive behaviors instead of just reacting when she did the wrong thing but it worked! So I think that answers the last question about having alternate tools and using them.
FYI as a teacher bound to report any abuse I would be required to report if a child was being struck with a spoon (or cord, belt, stick etc).
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