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    Default How would you talk to son about a questionable "like" on facebook?

    My 14yo son has been seeing a now 15 year old girl for a few months. They get along well and spend time together mainly with other friends - she has stayed here overnight in a separate room, and she seems like a pretty nice kid. I know her mother, and she is a very kind person and appears to be very bullied by her daughter which I don't agree with, but everyone parents differently.

    I know that facebook is a very big deal for most in this age group and she is a facebook friend of mine as well - I just noticed that she has "liked" a brand name condom page, and it has freaked me out.

    Should I just outright ask son if they're "doing it" I would be very surprised if that were the case as I can't think of where they would have had the opportunity, and I don't think they're at that point (GOD, I Hope not) She doesn't go to the same high school as my son. Maybe it was just a silly kind of thing she's done - I mean who "likes" a condom site?? Bit strange I thought. Would you say anything, or do you think that might come across as a bit like I'm stalking her lol? I do check what she writes as I feel it gives me a good insight into what's happening. Bit unsure how to tackle this.

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    Firstly, if they want to they will find somewhere to have sex.

    As for liking the a condom page, if it's the Durex one it's been in my news feed a lot lately because friends have liked their posts... I can't remember specifically what for, but it's not sex.
    I wouldn't assume they're having sex just because of that, nor would I straight out ask, but you could take the opportunity to talk to your son about making sure they practice safe sex when the time comes.

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    Maybe it's a good thing that she has 'liked' the condom page. She will have their stuff show up in her feed and it's better to be educated on the existence and use of condoms than not.

    You could have the safe sex talk with your son but I don't think you need to bring the fb page into it. At the end of the day, he is going to have sex at some point. The main goal should be to ensure it's done safely and not try to deter him from doing so.

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    Not to freak you out op but Remember being a teen? If you want to do it then you'll find a time and place.
    Maybe it's a good opportunity (if you haven't already ) have the talk with you child. But please don't mention her FB like, better you have access to her page than for her to block you

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    Yes, I do remember being a teenager, and maybe I was a bit different to the norm, but my upbringing made me wait - I had the opportunities, sure, but chose not to take them. Anyway, this is not meant to be a debate about what age is appropriate to have sex - think I might just have a bit more of a chat to son. Thanks ladies!

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    It's probably a good time to make sure your son has access to condoms Perhaps a casual chat about safe sex?

    Even if he hasn't quite gone all the way, it's only a matter of time. I wouldn't mention the fb 'like' though, as it'll probably get back to the girlfriend and she might delete you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clarabelle View Post
    Yes, I do remember being a teenager, and maybe I was a bit different to the norm, but my upbringing made me wait - I had the opportunities, sure, but chose not to take them. Anyway, this is not meant to be a debate about what age is appropriate to have sex - think I might just have a bit more of a chat to son. Thanks ladies!
    No one is debating the age, you said you don't even know where they could do it and we're just pointing out that they will find somewhere if they want to.

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    Her mum has only just joined facebook and asked if I could "help keep an eye on her" - not my place. I definitely don't want her to delete me!

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    No, I just meant that I didn't want it to sound like I was debating the age.

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    I agree with everyone else in that you shouldn't say you've seen it.
    As long as you've had the chat there's not much else you can do

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