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    Default When demand feeding isn't working...

    I really want to breastfeed, but I'm just about ready to give up. The only thing holding me back is how much I had to go through to be able to do it.

    Dd2 is always attached and it's so hard to settle her without the breast. It's at the point where I can't be in her sight without her thinking it's boobie time. After another night of 30 minute intervals of sleep, I want to give it one last chance before I turn to bottles (mix of ebm & formula).

    Throw all of your suggestions at me to get her less reliant on the breast.

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    How old is bub?

    wifey of hubby who is always away. mother of two girls who are always amusing.

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    She's so young. This stage does pass. I promise. She is entirely reliant on the breast for food and for comfort. She will start to space her feeds out as she grows a bit. It's up to you what you do but putting her in bottles is not likely to make her less reliant in you for comfort and cuddles. Is she wonder weeking?

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    9 1/2 weeks, -2 days corrected.
    I have a good supply, she's not building it.

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    If she's still a newborn this can be totally normal. A bottle won't ness help matters either since she will still want to suck for comfort only you can't demand feed with a bottle without making her sick. It is up to you but if your baby is still only a newborn or a couple of months old it is likely to get easier and less intense as time goes on. Either way I can sympathize I felt like all I did was breastfeed with my last baby. I only wish there was a way I could do it walking around with my hands free so that I could get other things done at the same time lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    She's so young. This stage does pass. I promise. She is entirely reliant on the breast for food and for comfort. She will start to space her feeds out as she grows a bit. It's up to you what you do but putting her in bottles is not likely to make her less reliant in you for comfort and cuddles. Is she wonder weeking?
    Comfort and cuddles I can handle, sore nipples and feeling like I'm just a pair of breasts I can't

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    She's right on the second wonder week. Hang in there if you can.supply building generally goes for the first three months of life, so there is that to consider too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    Comfort and cuddles I can handle, sore nipples and feeling like I'm just a pair of breasts I can't
    Can DH take her and an ebm bottle for an hour or two? Do you have a sling?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    Can DH take her and an ebm bottle for an hour or two? Do you have a sling?
    He already does. I have a mei tai but that just means I don't have to hold her while she's attached?

    It's okay, there's obviously no way to breastfeed without constant attachment. Thanks for your replies.

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    It's so hard in those early weeks, exhausting for mum. My DS was the same till about 13 weeks, fed constantly around the clock. He did start stretching out feeds eventually. Have you got a baby carrier/sling you could try her in?


 

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