I am feeling so conflicted on what to do for DS's Birthday this month. He's only turning 2, last year we just had a small gathering with just his grandparents, but that event was more about all the adults sitting around talking while I ran around looking after DS. I don't have a great relationship with my Inlaws, and MIL suffers a bad case of "I will never accept you because you are the 'other' woman and my son belongs to me!!!" syndrome, so without boring you with details - I just don't think I want DS's birthday to be spent with MIL's anxiety and nasty underhanded jabs all day. But DH thinks its an occasion where all the grandparents should get together... but doesn't that mean its more about them than DS?
I honestly feel like just taking DS out for the day ... somewhere he'd like, like the beach, or the zoo.... and we go to a nice cafe and eat yummy cake..... just something fun, low key and for "him"
DH is worried the inlaws will be annoyed I haven't organised something of which will include them, but I am also not including my parents either.... I just want it to be about our little family this time. DS goes to child care, but we are quite new at this new facility so I haven't actually met any of the parents to his little friends there yet to invite them over for a play.
DS absolutely loves outings.... he loves going to new places. He is always home, and see's his grandparents all the time.
I was just thinking when DH takes DS over to the inlaws for a visit they can have their own little celebration with him. But i feel selfish for wanting DS's birthday all to ourselves so we can do what we want and go out for the day. There is no way the grandparents will be keen on going out somewhere, if they're involved they will want it to be very low key. It was fine for DS's 1st B'day party, but he's a adventurous toddler now.
What did others here do for their toddlers 2nd B'day?