Ok, so I’m tired, cranky and frustrated, so probably not the best time to start this, but I’m so over it!!!!
My DS is 4 years old, and still not toilet trained. He is very mild ASD, and is very smart. He understands most of what we say. He sits on the toilet, he’s happy to do this, but WILL NOT do anything! To start off I was ok with this and I thought he’s just not ready, so I have left it. I’ve been totally patient with him until now, and now I feel like I’m going to snap.
I get him to sit on the toilet, I let him see me on the toilet, I name wee and poo when he sees it so he knows what I am talking about, but he is completely oblivious to it. I feel like he just doesn’t care and doesn’t want to be bothered with it, so he simply wont try. I’m thinking, maybe its time to get out the tough love.
I gave im heaps of water earlier, and after about half an hour, I made him sit on the toilet while I was with him, for about 20 minutes. I even tried bribing him with stickers and ice cream, which he understood and was happy about, but still would not do anything. I was concerned he’d get a sore bottom sitting on the loo, and I didn’t want him to learn to hate it, so I let him off, and told him if he needs to do wee, he is not to do it on the floor and instead go to the toilet.
This sounds a bit far fetched, but with his understanding of some things, these kind of concepts are relatively easy for him to learn. I’m so over it now and I’m tired, if I go out to the lounge room now and find he’s peed on the floor I’m going to hit the roof. I know that sounds awful, not normally like me and I’m usually so patient, I just can’t take it anymore. Perhaps tomorrow I’ll feel better, in the mean time, I need some advise and/or support!!! Please help.