I skipped all the c-section parts of the books I read while I was pregnant because I was certain that I'd end up making it through labour drug-free having a vaginal birth.
It absolutely shook me that I ended up having an emergency c-section and for ages afterwards, I blamed my husband, the midwife, and other circumstances (like the time of day I went into labour). It was disappointing. I have heard other friends say the same thing.
It wasn't until I had an appointment for the 6 week vaccinations that the nurse looked at my large lo and said "failure to progress ending in c-section?". Apparently this is really common with big babies.
I wish this kind of information had been common knowledge so that I hadn't spent all that time wondering if I could have done things differently to prevent theatre.
I wonder if there are clear patterns as to why people end up having emergency caesareans. What are other people's stories?