Bongley; so sorry you had to endure your DP suffering through cancer.
Your post actually made me smile though; I was just thinking where else can we go & just chat about our partner's balls? Bh, of course!
Not a stupid question at all about cheaper clinics. There are a couple around, the only problem is our bmi. The public ones have really strict bmi restrictions that DH & I are well over. We both need to lose heaps of weight (& have both had surgery to do so) but our FS felt that given my age & diminishing AMH that we didn't have time to lose the kind of weight needed to get into the cheaper clinics. Our FS actually works at one of the public clinics too & they use Genea's labs so they should be pretty good. Kicking myself; when we did our 1st cycle, our (very smart) FS suggested we do another stim cycle to get more embryos. We were going to then the dark area showed up on the US of DH's ball (just lurve talkin about them balls 😉), so his urologist wouldn't let us surgically remove sperm till this year (when it had been stable for a while). After my great response on 225 puregon in 2011, we just never imagined I'd respond so dismally to double the dose. Our biggest concern all along is if they will find sperm in DH. Last retrieval he had 16 needle aspirations where none was found, then they went in surgically. We have some frozen (about 12 sperm all up) but last time they all died on defrost. Feeling like everyone who 'tut-tutted' us for daring to try for a second may be right.