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    Agree, I know it's not simple to leave but you really need to leave. There's both yours and your kids safety at stake here. There's no time to sit around and ponder whether that sort of behavior is justified, you need to get out of there ASAP.

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    Don't hate yourself..... Love yourself for the strong, wonderful woman you are. Throw all your energy into making yourself feel strong and seek out support. If there is one thing I have learnt in life... It's you cannot change others, only yourself and your response. From this moment onwards focus all your energy on building your self esteem and strength. Who really cares what he says or does? He is obviously a very sad and unhappy person. In my experience those that feel good about themselves have no need to bring others down so the only thing you should be feeling is pity for the poor bloke. He obviously has some major issues with himself for him to need to destroy someone else and be so nasty.

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    Please don't hate yourself. I don't have much advice because I am often in a similar situation that my partner would get mad at me for something I didn't do or something ridiculous, then non stop in my face question after question with abuse.

    It's NOT okay and you DONT have to put up with it. Massive hugs x

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    OP please listen to all this advice I remember your NYE post too

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    He sounds just like my xh. I was so depressed towards the end that I could barely get out of bed

    You need to make plans to leave him NOW !!

    This environment isn't good for you or your children.

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    How are things now OP? Hopefully settled down.

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    Talking about your mother....can you go there?

    A friend's?

    I would pack my bags right now and go there.

    And if he threatens to not let the children go, threaten to call the police. He is a coward.

    Then take a few days to think. YOU need to come up with the decisions, not us.

    Hugs. I've been there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RipperRita View Post
    Don't hate yourself..... Love yourself for the strong, wonderful woman you are. Throw all your energy into making yourself feel strong and seek out support. If there is one thing I have learnt in life... It's you cannot change others, only yourself and your response. From this moment onwards focus all your energy on building your self esteem and strength. Who really cares what he says or does? He is obviously a very sad and unhappy person. In my experience those that feel good about themselves have no need to bring others down so the only thing you should be feeling is pity for the poor bloke. He obviously has some major issues with himself for him to need to destroy someone else and be so nasty.
    This ^^^
    Perfectly said @RipperRita

    "Life Is Ours, We Live It Our Way".

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    Big hugs to you, xxx.

    His abuse has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Please don't hate yourself, look deep into your soul and find all the good things about yourself, chant it to yourself (ie. I am kind, I am a good mother etc) until you believe it.

    If you want him removed, call the police, tell them he is drunk and is being abusive, they will remove him for the night at the very least. Maybe it will give him the kick up the backside he needs & he will realise you will not put up with his abusive behavior.

    Also, imagine you are your best friend, what advice would you give them? Give this advice to yourself.

    Please be safe & do whatever you have to do to keep you & your munchkins safe.

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    I hope everything is ok op xo


 

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