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    Default I'm a bit nervous

    I just received ANOTHER email from my dad about Australia having asylum seekers. I have known my entire life my father is racist. He told me as a teenager he would disown me if I ever had a black boyfriend. I have never confronted him about it despite my disgust. Tonight I replied to his email asking if he could take me off the mailing list for those kind of emails as I'm quite ok with Australia being a multicultural country. I'm actually a little worried about the reply I may receive. I just don't want to be sent that kind of stuff. I don't find it entertaining in the slightest.

    Eekkkk I'm nervous :/
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    Our fathers must be cut from the same cloth. We were in a hospital visiting someone and there was a sign on the elevator about "stopping the spread of diseases". My father said "I know how they can stop the spread of diseases... Stop the boats." I ripped him a new one, I didn't care if people heard.

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    I think we may be long lost sisters...my dad had the same rule about boyfriends who were not "like us".

    I had a similar confrontation with my dad...we didn't speak for 4 years after lmao but now we have an OK relationship. We have an agreed rule that politics and religion are not discussed EVER...and it has sort of saved out relationship.

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    Perhaps send him an article like this so that you don't have to argue further.

    http://mobile.news.com.au/world/ten-...-1226676024840

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    That's my mother!
    My husband calls her ":name: Hanson"

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    I honestly can't speak to him about it. He's extremely judgemental - does my head in.

    He's the same father who had a go at me for going out one night as I'm a mother. Considering he spent 90% of my childhood in a pub I was blown away by the hypocrisy! Apparently it's the woman's job to stay home all the time and men can go and drink. I got so angry with him I just went to town about him being a failure as a father and reminded him that I only ever went out when I was forced to be separated from my children as they were at their father's house. I don't even drink when my boys are home (unlike he did.... My job as a child was fetching beers for him). We didn't speak for a year after that because of my choosing. I really wish you could pick your family.

    I just can't swallow his stance on things. I'm embarrassed by his thinking.

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    Good on you for telling him you don't want his stupid emails anymore!

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    I made a family member leave a restaurant once (OK, I told them to go home "very firmly") ) when we were having a birthday dinner for DS a couple of years ago at an Indian restaurant because they made racist remarks about the staff.
    I wont stand for it.

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    You have done the right thing. I hope he respects your request.


 

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