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    When i saw this thread, i immediately thought of @IndigoJ.

    I dont see an issue with it. To me to give a child a name of someone who has passed, there is obviously some strong meaning of the person to you. I think its a lovely idea so just talk to the family and see what they think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myztiks#1Fan View Post
    When i saw this thread, i immediately thought of @IndigoJ.

    I dont see an issue with it. To me to give a child a name of someone who has passed, there is obviously some strong meaning of the person to you. I think its a lovely idea so just talk to the family and see what they think.

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    yes I'd do it.

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    I think it's a lovely idea but perhaps as you said give them sometime and ask them their thoughts. Chances are they will be honored. The other option is to use it as baby's middle name, so you are paying respect but his kids can use it later if they want.

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    My best friend passed away from cancer a few years ago.
    I checked (well I probably told)her husband. .. and sent an email to her family that we were using her name. They were very touched.
    And I would've used it as her first name with no hesitation except that it is a bit old fashioned! So it's her middle name.
    I think it's a lovely thing to do. I'm sure any family would be touched by you using his name.

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    My sister's passed away when I was younger so when we had DD we thought about this too. We decided not to use their names as to us it didn't feel quite right but rather we used names that had similar characteristics that to our family and friends they can clearly see where the link is but for DD she still has that slight difference.

    Good luck it's hard to decide.

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    I think it's a lovely idea. I would definitely check with them first and give them time to speak with their daughters too. We had planned on using my cousin's name (as a middle name), but were asked not to as her brother wanted the option later down the track.

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    I would only do it as a middle name.

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    I think it's a lovely idea and I would just go about asking permission from the parents in the way you've described. Also probably best not to get too attached to the name in case they do object, which could happen given they've got daughters who might like to use it. It's great that you've given so much thought to it and are so respectful.

    One of my cousins named her son after one of our uncles that passed away years ago. Nice idea in theory but she never asked my other cousin (uncles daughter) if it would be okay. It's been quite painful for my cousin because now everytime she hears her dad's name it's a bit sad for her thinking of how she might've liked to use the name for her child one day. I found that a bit disrespectful.
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    I'd personally stay clear of giving the first name of a recent deceased person. It's like the baby has already a baggage IYKWIM

    But yes I'd asked them first, definitely. Prepare yourself for both answers too.


 

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