DH and I are having our third baby due in OCT and although it's very early to be picking names we do already have one in mind.
One of DHs best friends died in nov. They where close and DH is also close to his family. He was over almost every night right after it happened and also regularly checks in with them still.
We had thought about naming the baby after him - first name. But didn't want to just spring it on them. Like "hey here's our baby".
Firstly, would you think it's ok to use his name?
And secondly do you think it's better to ask them (maybe around 6 months) if we could and give them the time to think about it and the opportunity to tell us if they aren't comfortable with it than to just do it?
I would hate to upset them.
I also worry because they have two daughters (his sisters) who may want to use the name in the future (both are currently single).
Of course I wouldn't mind them using the name, I just wouldn't want the fact we used his name stop them from using it. If that makes sense?
Should we approach the family all together, or get the parents to ask the daughters?
We would be using my dad's name as a middle name.
Any thoughts/opinions would be appreciated.
DH, Me and our two boys.
#3 due 30th Sept