I am a step mother of a beautiful girl who is 3 years, 9 months. Her Dad (my partner) weaned her off her dummy at around 2 years old, however her Mum still gives it to her.
They have a shared care arrangement in place so she goes between houses. She is a happy, independent and very confident girl (when with us) and never asks for her dummy, however as soon as she sees her Mum she asks for it and cries if she doesn't get it.
She has recently started Kindy and her Dad picked her up to find a dummy in her bag. Is he correct in thinking that a) she should not be having a dummy at her age and b) she should definitely not be taking one to kindy? Or is her Mum correct in thinking that a) she needs it to cope with her emotions and self-soothe and b) she will get rid of it when she is ready to?
At this stage I agree that a dummy is not age appropriate but I also worry that the inconsistency is also not appropriate.
I hate seeing her upset and out of character and if we (Dad and I) are placing extra stress on her, I would love to be able to help reduce that. In case you haven't noticed I just adore her!
Any ideas/suggestions/opinions/experiences/information would be much appreciated. Thank you.