+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 26
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Posts
    137
    Thanks
    21
    Thanked
    29
    Reviews
    0

    Default What do people think of your large family?

    So we have just started the journey to conceive our 4th bub, it will be our last but I'm already nervous when the time comes to announce a pregnancy because I know some of the reactions I will be getting from family isn't going to be great. Alot of people tend to have an idea in their head that 2-3 kids is the norm and anything above that is just insanity!
    How did you deal with this? Did anybody make you feel really upset about it, did you just ignore those who were like that?
    I love big families, I wish it was more widely accepted as the norm.

  2. The Following User Says Thank You to TotSnot For This Useful Post:

    KaraB  (02-02-2014)

  3. #2
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Location
    Gold Coast, QLD
    Posts
    3,601
    Thanks
    1,294
    Thanked
    1,108
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    My 4th daughter is about to turn 2 but when I was pregnant I copped it all. 'You should invest in a TV' 'haven't you heard of contraception' 'life is going to be crazy with 4' at first I was upset or offended by it but then I thought about the people that were making these comments. It was usually people that struggle with 1 or 2 children, people that wanted more but couldn't afford it & other petty reasons for it. I soon got over it and just laughed people off! Now we are planning number 5, I probably won't announce it to people until I'm actually asked, not for the fact I care about other peoples opinions but more so that it has nothing to do with them!

  4. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to BabyG4 For This Useful Post:

    KaraB  (02-02-2014),TotSnot  (02-02-2014)

  5. #3
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Posts
    137
    Thanks
    21
    Thanked
    29
    Reviews
    0
    lol it's funny isn't it, do people just assume it's an accident? Some people do actually love and want more then just 3 kids

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to TotSnot For This Useful Post:

    KaraB  (02-02-2014)

  7. #4
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Posts
    4,953
    Thanks
    3,680
    Thanked
    1,949
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    some people should just keep their big mouths shut

    Im the youngest of 6 and i love having a big family. Ill be happy with 2 but each to their own, if u want and will love 4 kids then thats awesome! Dont let anyone tell u otherwise

  8. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to SoThisIsLove For This Useful Post:

    BabyG4  (02-02-2014),KaraB  (02-02-2014),LoCo  (02-02-2014),TotSnot  (02-02-2014)

  9. #5
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Location
    NSW
    Posts
    1,932
    Thanks
    1,440
    Thanked
    585
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I got pregnant with #4 when dd2 was 5 months old. Yes it was a surprise but we were actually really happy about it. I kept getting asked by one friend in particular if I was going to 'get my tubes tied' when I have the c section. Um no I'm not !! For one, I'm only 30 and I might want more children. 2, permanent birth control isn't something our family is interested in. 3, she wanted more children but can't now because she had her tubes done

  10. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to cluckcluck For This Useful Post:

    KaraB  (02-02-2014),TotSnot  (02-02-2014)

  11. #6
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Posts
    10,012
    Thanks
    14,124
    Thanked
    7,612
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    I've got four, I do find people seem to comment a lot on it, I've never heard anything negative though. Seems to be a lot of "aren't you lucky", "you've got your hands full", "what lovely children" type comments.

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to beebs For This Useful Post:

    BeyondHappy  (02-02-2014)

  13. #7
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Posts
    2,051
    Thanks
    8,078
    Thanked
    1,258
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I am pregnant with my 7th (although one is deceased ) and I didn't tell anyone right away about it this time. It was bad enough when I was having my 4th! Strangers were like so this is the last one now right? How about getting yourself f*cked?! Is what I thought but I would politely smile (which annoys me too, feeling compelled to respond politely to such a rude innapropriate remark from someone I don't even know. Most people never see me with them all at once so are really nice at first saying oh is this your second? Then when I tell them the number their faces change and they usually tell me I'm nuts Gee thanks. Well no, I'm not nuts. I didn't plan this many but I'm very happy and lucky to have them I chose not to tell even extended family this time yet and I'm 24 weeks along. I'm not open to being judged right now and I don't think it's anybody's business but those closest to me so I'm not giving people the opportunity or the sense of a right to comment on it because I felt the need to tell them. This pregnancy was a big surprise and it took me a good few months to wrap my head around it. I'm very happy about it now so I'm not about to let anyone being me down about it now. So yes I feel judged about it by people who don't know any better or realize how great it is to have a large family but that only effects me to the extent that I expect to be judged now. I'm not any less happy to have my children because of it though.

  14. The Following User Says Thank You to KaraB For This Useful Post:

    cluckcluck  (02-02-2014)

  15. #8
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Posts
    2,051
    Thanks
    8,078
    Thanked
    1,258
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Also one of my pet HATES is reffering to any woman having children as 'breeding'. It's an ugly judgmental thing to say. And regardless of what you think of a person you are also referring to an innocent child. As if there are only certain people who are allowed to be 'having a baby' and anyone deemed unworthy is simply 'breeding'. Grr.

  16. #9
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Posts
    1,581
    Thanks
    748
    Thanked
    733
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    This is number 5 in our blended family with only 2 with us most of the time plus the kids are teenagers/pre teens so I haven't gotten any criticism. It's our first together so I guess it was mostly expected.

    People who don't know me/us very well are usually shocked that there's 4 already & the eldest is 18. I had kids young but to look at me I'm probably not what most people would expect having had them so young if that makes sense.

    I'm probably going thru a bit of shock for myself atm, I've had a lot going on and combined with pregnancy hormones I'm starting to wonder how I'll manage to be honest😁

  17. The Following User Says Thank You to ourbradybunch For This Useful Post:

    KaraB  (02-02-2014)

  18. #10
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Posts
    21,654
    Thanks
    15,094
    Thanked
    11,263
    Reviews
    14
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the WeekBusiest Member of the Week - week ended 5/2/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 31/10/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 24/10/14Busiest Member of the Week
    Strangers comments are always a mixed barrel. We get a lot nice comments with the odd crazy rude one. When someone is rude. Just say excuse me but that is rude.

    Family wise at 4 they were "well you should stop" at 5 "they were well that your last right" and now at 6 they are hurry up and have another one.
    You can never win.

    Enjoy your Bub and ignore the idiots.

  19. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to LoveLivesHere For This Useful Post:

    cluckcluck  (02-02-2014),KaraB  (02-02-2014)


 

Similar Threads

  1. having a large(ish) 3+ family and the effect on your marriage
    By foreverclucky in forum Should we have another baby?
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 16-09-2013, 20:06
  2. Judgement for having a large family
    By SheWarrior in forum Parents with large families
    Replies: 30
    Last Post: 18-04-2013, 19:45
  3. Large family.. Pros and Cons
    By jorjarenee in forum General Chat
    Replies: 29
    Last Post: 21-02-2013, 17:38

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Bamboo Lulu
Unique, non-toxic wooden eco toys for babies. Water-based paints, saliva-resistant & baby safe. Super soft, prints & basics for baby, made from bamboo & organic cotton. Hypoallergenic - great for eczema relief. FREE gift with purchase. Code BUBHUB
sales & new stuffsee all
True Fairies
True Fairies is the first interactive website where children can engage and speak with a real fairy through the unique webcam fairy portal. Each session is tailored to the child, and is filled with enchantment and magic.
Visit website to find out more!
featured supporter
Baby Sensory
Baby Sensory is the only baby programme that offers a complete approach to learning & development. Our classes offer an exciting world full of fun sensory experiences for parents and babies to enjoy.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!