Currently I sit with my 4.5yr old Ds until he falls asleep, it takes under 10min, however I would prefer he learns to self settle because my 24m old is giving me trouble too and it's hard the nights Dh isn't home.
Some advice how to leave him would be great.
With my 24m old, he has gone from falling asleep at night pretty good ( some nights he would be a little unsettled) to now cracking it the minute he is placed in the cot. I try in my arms, but he just stays awake. I can't pat because he refuses to lye down. I usually cosleep in the middle of the night.