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    Default Which option (care for my DS, 23 months)

    I need help with options for DS's weekly routine 3 days a week. He will be 2 next month and has speech delay.
    Assuming all carers were great with your child, which one would you choose:


    Option 1-
    Monday: Mother in law (she's great!)
    (Tue/wed- home with me)
    Thu: Mum (She enjoys having Ds too)
    Fri: Mum again + some type of playgroup / library time


    Or


    Option 2-
    Mon: Mother in law
    (Tue/wed- home with me)
    Thu: Mum
    Fri: DAYCARE


    So I dont really have to send him daycare. I will when is 3yr/4yr (kinder program there).
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    I would choose at least one day of daycare so he can start to interact with peers. I would also be mindful of being a burden on grandparents.

    Also if your daycare is local it's helpful to start connections with children and families he may be going to kindy or school with. Daycare may also be helpful for the speech delay.

    It is also much easier to get extra days if needed or get days for siblings if already booked into daycare.

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    I'd go 1 buy that's what I did! My DS just started 3 yo pre school and loves it ( no advice on speech delay though )

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    Yeah I'd do a day of daycare too. I found it hard relying on my mum - she would often cancel or "call in sick". Whereas daycare is always available (unless your child is sick - but you could call on your mum to help on those days).

    They recommend doing at least 2 days at daycare though, as when it's only one day a week it can be hard for the child to get used to going there.

    If your mum and MIL are reliable though, maybe option one would work well too.

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    Thanks all.
    My MIL and mum are very reliable. My mum also doesn't mind the two days.


    I'm just worried because Ds is clingy and hates being dropped off at daycare . I'm just wondering if I should just wait until he is 3 and understands more.

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    If you have family as an option I would go for that over child care, especially if your son struggles with it.

    I know they say child care can help with speech development though although in my (amateur) opinion so will feeling safe and secure with carers he trusts.

    My DS1 is looked after by my parents two days a week. They have such a special relationship, it's a wonderful gift to give your children (and their grandparents). My mum and dad just love it, it's the highlight of their week.

    You are so lucky to have such supportive family, take advantage of it!

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    I'd agree with the other posts that said 1 day day care. The connection with peers is good and even though your mum is reliable, it's impossible for her never to be sick/unavailable. Daycare is guilt free too, so you can finish work and sneak in a coffee/run errands before you get him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grumpybump View Post
    If you have family as an option I would go for that over child care, especially if your son struggles with it.

    I know they say child care can help with speech development though although in my (amateur) opinion so will feeling safe and secure with carers he trusts.

    My DS1 is looked after by my parents two days a week. They have such a special relationship, it's a wonderful gift to give your children (and their grandparents). My mum and dad just love it, it's the highlight of their week.

    You are so lucky to have such supportive family, take advantage of it!
    I feel like you too and my Ds1 (now 4.5yrs) attended daycare 1-2 days a week at similar age.
    Im not sure if because Ds2 is my last baby or because of his inability to communicate that well, I dread taking him this week.

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    My DS started daycare 2 days a week this month, he is 28 months so a little older than your DS but has expressive speech delay. If you are able to I would go with option 1 for 6 months then do option 2 but with 2 days daycare (maybe you can alternate the weeks between your Mum and MIL). In the 2 weeks DS has attended daycare he has gained about 5 new words, could be a coincidence I guess. He is still upset when I leave but settles quickly so I'm not fretting about it.

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    I think I might delay Childcare until he is 3, I was talking to my mum and she said that maybe 1 day MIL, 1 her, 1 CC is too confusing. I don't want 2 days CC at this age, when he is 3 that's ok.
    She is a widow, so a tad lonely and I made her reassure me she didn't mind the 2 days.


 

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