I can't stand my obstetrician. My partner thinks he's fantastic. They laugh and joke and it's like I'm not even in the room. He directs everything to my partner when I ask questions. And when I said I wanted a doula he said "why would you do something dilly like that when you have your husband and me there?". Is it too late to find another doctor? The doula I'm talking to is telling me I should go public and see a midwife but my partner won't do that. I'm meeting the doula today and i really want her but I get the feeling that she will be shunned by my dr and my partner so I don't know what to do. I feel so helpless.