He definitely sounds like an abusive narcissist who has put you through hell and back. I'm so sorry your experience in Oz has been such a tortuous one.
I agree that you need to get back to London and your support network asap. Also can you see a doctor here to get some medication for the nausea? You may also want to organise the nuchal screening bloods/scan which is done around 12 weeks. It isn't vital though.
As for hating your baby if it looks like him. My mum hates my abusive asshat dad but is always thankful that because of him she has us. I'm a bit of an "everything happens for a reason" person. Perhaps the reason he came into your life was to give you this baby? I would get counseling as no doubt you have a lot to work through and this could impact on bonding.
Please come here to vent and seek advice as much as you need to. The parents here have so much experience and support.
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