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    Default Sisters new boyfriend.... Not too sure

    So my sister (whom I am very close with) had met a new man after her husband left her and 2 kids about 8 months ago. I met him tonight for the first time and need some advice. As a general meeting he was nice and chatty and polite. What I'm concerned about is a couple things when we first met he was quiet and reserved and it wasn't until he had a joint he was very talkative and open I don't have a problem with someone having a joint ever now and then but if it's what he needs to feel comfortable in social situations then maybe. Also I snooped in his wallet (not proud) but found no liscence and 2 business cards for hookers. So now am concerned because my sister (whom we tell everything to each other) had said nothing but nice stuff about this guy and I can't say what I think about him to her because I value out relationship too much too ruin it. What to

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    I don't see him having a joint to chill out any different to having a drink. Some people are just socially nervous so no biggy there.

    Business cards for hookers is weird. Any idea what line of work he's in - could they be a work connection? I'd fess up and tell my sister about it - she might get mad for you snooping but could be a good thing in the long run if its something she wasn't aware of.

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    ... I'd apologise to the boyfriend. And be fully prepared for being known as the person who seems to have absolutely no problem with invading someone elses privacy. Who you just met. For absolutely no reason whatsoever.

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    Woah.

    You snooped through a guys wallet who youd just met? Who is dating your sister? That's kind of creepy.
    Maybe he never cleans out his wallet and they've been there for years. Maybe a mate tossed them at him after inviting him out. Who knows.

    Don't say anything. Forget it happened. You violated this guys privacy and totally went over the line. I get you might be worried for your sister but take a step back.

    Apologies if it's brash. But that's kind of a step over the mark.

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    I think you should say nothing. If your instincts say there is something dodgy about him then it will reveal itself in time. But going thought the wallet...huh, not cool. How would you feel if your new boyfriends brother did that to you?

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    Omg you're such a sticky beak. that's not cool. mind your own business next time. your sister is old enough to make her own decisions.

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    What business is it of yours?

    IMO you snooping through his wallet says more about your character than his, a man with hooker business cards.

    Say nothing. He has done nothing wrong.

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    You went through his wallet? Wow!
    If I were in your shoes I wouldn't be able to tell my sister about the hooker cards out of embarrassment of doing it in the first place.
    I get that you are worried about your sister but that does overstep the mark!
    In regards to the joint smoking, when I met DH, I was socially quite shy and needed to have a drink before we'd go out to meet his friends.... Maybe this guy is a bit the same.

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    I have one interest on mind and that is my sister and I will cross any line to protect her. I don't appologise for snooping if I found something or not. And at first instincts I had no interest in snooping I would not but I see all walks of life in my job and allot of alarm bells rang when I met him. I know I went somewhere I shouldn't but won't apologise for what I did as I have my sisters interest at heart and not his. Sorry if you all don't agree but too bad

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    more like too bad for YOU. she's still with him. and it can backfire on you. thank god you're not my sister.

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