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    I agree that one day a week might not be enough. DD had a friend in her room this year who sobbed all day for the whole year, and her teachers felt that it didn't help that she only attended one day a week. They say you need at least 2 days for them to get used to it.

    The breakfast drop off sounds like a good idea. The one time I had to take DD in early she eagerly sat at the breakfast table like it was a real treat, and didn't cry when I left.

    Also definitely always let him know when you're leaving, otherwise he'll constantly be worried you're likely to leave him any minute (outside of daycare I mean).

    Hang in there and good luck

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    Did you get to do some orientation time with him in the weeks before he started? I think that helped DS, even though he his still crying when I leave the staff think he is settling quite well. We did 3 1hr sessions before Christmas and when he started he knew where things were etc. Maybe you or your Mum could do some sessions with him on the days he doesn't go.

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    My advise-
    1 day a week is not enough to get used to it. 2 days is better.
    Take him in, find an activity, sit him down and get him started, then tell him you are going now and will be back later to get him. Have a teacher there to grab him if need be. Smile and say goodbye and wave and walk out, and keep walking. Don't stop and make a fuss if he cries, it will upset him more.
    Then if you like you can ring 15mins or so later to see if he has settled.

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    Hi all, I spoke to my mum and she said that she is happy to look after DS on that day instead of daycare. She is also going to try and take him in on her own and see if he settles in better with her dropping him off.
    DS1 was in 1 day per week and he was ok settling in (He cried, but it was a little easier to leave him, he wasn't as clingy).
    DS2 however has speech delay, so I think it makes him more frustrated to communicate and it breaks my heart to hear him cry for me knowing that he wants to tell me to stay / not leave him.
    I thought #2 would be easier!

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    - it's far too early to start worrying. Kids take time to settle in. Give things a month or two before you think about pulling the plug.
    - 1 day per week isn't enough. Try at least 2 days (consecutive).
    - keep a routine. Walking into daycare do exactly the same thing. Look at the same picture on the wall and talk about it. Get your little one to open the gate. Get them to say hello to the receptionist.
    - act happy and excited... Even if you have to fake it. Eg "omg! It's a school day today you are going to have so much fun!" "Omg! We're nearly at your classroom what toys will they have for you to play with today?". Kids can smell your fear and fear is catchy...
    - always say goodbye to your kid and tell them you will be back later.
    - have the carers make up a short picture book of what they do through the day (morning tea, play outside, lunch, nap etc. the last page should be daddy/mummy picking your little one up. If your child gets distressed they can read the book and hopefully calm your child down.

    Good luck
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    Sorry just read your update. I think daycare would help your kids speech more than just being looked after by just your mum. But you know your kid better than anyone on here and do what you feel is best. Wish your little one the best of luck either way!

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    Great advice Lilla.... ^^^^ this.

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    I think I've been doing it all wrong and leaving him too soon (rushing out). If I stay and chat etc, he clings more and expects me to stay. So I thought that a quick hey and kiss would be better.

    He is too little to understand that I'll be back etc.

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    Some kids are drop and roll and others need a bit more. Try and see how you go.

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    Something that I do everytime we go is sing a song with my dd as I get her dressed and then when we pull into the daycare carpark (or on the way). It's a positive little song which gets her excited about going. She has been going 2 consecutive days since 10 months. She is now 21 months and she loves it. Song goes: "It's a daycare day today, a daycare day today, hi ho dairy oh, it's a daycare day today". Might help to put a really positive spin on it for your ds.

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