hi, im surprised this interview with Peaches, lasted only about 5 mins, and yet there is so much comment here from it. She is just one mother with her own opinions, she happens to relate most with AP. She has said some negative comments about CC and some positive comments about BF. I think she is entitled to her opinions, but she has no impact on how I would raise my children if I had the time again. If her surname wasn't Geldorf, no one would be bothered in the least. no big deal, Marie.
Yes I do think she should have considered there is a distinction. While I won't use either, CC used as it's meant to, is much more preferable to CIO. But maybe her point is that many parents use CC as a euphemism for CIO (and ime it's a common thing)
It isn't really the point though, if she does or doesn't know the difference. The point is that she called it "unnatural and wrong". We all choose to parent differently, there is no place, none whatsoever for mothers to insult other mothers for their parenting choices. It is ok to disagree, to say you wouldn't do something. But to call it "unnatural and wrong"? Way out of line....waaayyy, wayyy out.
I didn't see the whole interview, only a really small snippet of it where she said its been scientifically proven that co-sleeping is safer than using a cot (with absolutely no qualification or definition of what is considered co-sleeping and what 'using a cot' actually means...yikes). Why did she even need to mention CC? Why can't people just say what they do and why it works for them without making condescending remarks about other parents?
For the record, I cannot stand 'parenting style' labels. The more I read & hear, the more I hate the whole concept. It breeds high-and-mighty attitudes and exclusion. It encourages parents to compare, criticise, defend and demean. it puts parents on opposing ends of the spectrum and ignores the extensive grey area in between.
I just parent, full stop. We do what we deem appropriate at the time. At the moment she's 2.5yrs and fighting bedtime tooth & nail, I know she's fine so yeah, we let her cry and complain and demand stories and back rubs for a while before going in to put her back in her bed. Then we remind her its bedtime and leave again. It's a boundary battle, and I intend to win. Am
I using CC? I wouldn't say so, I'm just doing what we have decided is appropriate at this point in time for her age, personality and the behaviour.
Just because I choose to tackle this issue in this way doesn't mean DD doesn't get a million hugs and kisses and stories and back rubs and hours of my undivided attention at other times. Or that she doesn't end up in bed with us at 3am!
Call me whatever kind of parent you want, I don't care. And I really don't care what "type" of parent anyone else is, provided their children are loved and cared for.
(edited to clarify which part of the interview I saw, which immediately made me disregard anything else she said)
Last edited by Cue; 22-01-2014 at 13:41.
That Katie woman was saying things like " attachment parents are crap parents" , " you can smell the breast milk on these hippy parents " type comments
Peaches was quite nice and trying to explain "her style" and that other woman was a total ***** - plus the baby falling out of the pram thing was an accident by a new mum - I would love to hear from any new mum who is perfect and never did anything wrong !
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