Hi all, not sure if this is the right place to put this but anyway...
DS is 4.5, and I know all little kids crack it when they don't get their way etc but I'm starting to get a bit worried with the way DS reacts to things.
Instead of crying, getting upset etc when he doesn't get his way or is told no or is sent to his room for some "cool down time" as I call it, he gets REALLY angry, not tantrum throwing-things-around angry, but, punches things, makes a "grr!" sound like a huff, and makes a closed fist and punches into his other hand as if he's ready to hit me? He also grabs at my arm in anger to try and pinch or something when he's in trouble for his behavior.
I'm just wondering why DS all of a sudden (well the past few months) has resorted to getting really cross and angry instead of the usual crying that most kids/toddlers would do? At first I thought this was a phase but it's gone on for a while now and I'm starting to get worried.
I don't think it's fair to punish him for having feelings, for eg when he feels angry, but I'm trying my best to help him control it, and learn to calm down.
I'm just wondering it I'm having an influence on how he reacts to not getting his way or is told no, like money see monkey do type thing. Not that I punch things etc when I don't get my way haha!
I'm no saint and he's seen me pretty p!ssed off at times recently, and I guess having a heated argument with someone over the phone or raising my voice towards my partner in frustration. My partner (his step-dad) has been short-tempered lately as he's been working long hours and been getting up really early for work so he's been over-tired and lack of sleep. So he's been pretty grumpy and a little snappy at DS which he feels terrible for and is trying to be more patient when DS is being difficult.
I'm also wondering could it be diet related? He doesn't eat/drink sugary things heaps, once in a while he will get a treat like ice cream or a small freddo frog or something when hes been really well behaved or been listening well etc. He does eat a lot of fruit though?
And lastly could it be him copying characters in cartoons on tv? I normally don't believe children's cartoons could be a huge influence in a child's behavior but he watches stuff like Thomas to TMNT, you know, typical 4year old boy stuff.
Do you think this can be typical boy behavior at a stage in their childhood or should I look into it? I'm not from a family with boys (all girls) so it's all new to me. I feel guilty that it's all my doing that he reacts this way, as if I've been leading a really bad example Any suggestions or advice?!