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    Default NT scan, Hubby and I can't agree

    Hi everyone

    Just wondering if anyone else can't agree whether or not to get the NT scan done with hubby?

    DH has said he will want to terminate of the scan/further testing comes back showing something wrong.. I don't, and won't.. So I don't want to get it done..

    We have 1 DS and somehow I managed to skip it last time, however I don't think I'm able to just "forget" this time around.

    Has anyone disagreed with their OH over something so important? How did you resolve it?

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    I haven't been in your situation before but just wanted to bump the thread in case someone else had some advice Maybe you could tell your DH that NT scans don't prove anything generally they only show the odds of something being wrong and of those who are told they are higher risk and opt for further testing most of those come back clear as well. Understandably you want to spare yourself the stress (particularly if it won't change your mind about keeping your baby either way). Can I ask why your DH is so hell bent on testing this time around?

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    Could you "just" do it? Chances are it will come back all clear... If not, it will still be time to have a serious talk with your OH?

    Not sure if that's practical.

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    Hmm that's tough. We didn't do it with DS1 but did with DS2 - got a "high risk" 1:288 chance of trisomy 21. We decided not to do any further testing as didn't want to risk any harm to our baby and put our faith in the fact we would love him no matter what. He doesn't have trisomy 21.

    It did impact on the pregnancy, there was always that "what if?" in the back of my mind. We have decided not to do testing with this bub as it was just too stressful.

    I think you need to have a proper talk about it. The fact that an intellectual disability is a deal breaker for him is quite significant. Is he aware of all the possible syndromes/conditions that can occur that are not able to be diagnosed in utero? Does he know that definitive testing can cause complications or miscarriage?

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    Can i ask your age? Generally if your over 35 theres an increased risk. Is there a history of trisomy 21 in your family? If your under that age and no family history it could maybe be a argument not to do it??

    Never been in your situation, DH and i agreed to do ours, both times.


 

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