Hi, just wondering what most of you thought about your current or future left over frozen embies?
Quick run down on my TTC story so-far...I have PCOS, DH has great swimmers. After trying naturally, then Naturopath, then Clomid, I was blessed with my dd on my 2nd FSH OI/IUI. 2nd time around I've just come off 4 cycles of OI with 3 IUI's which ended up with a miscarriage on Christmas Eve.
I'm just waiting for AF to get started on my first IVF cycle and I just can't stop worrying about any possible left over frosties as I only want to be blessed with one more bub. My Google/Bubhub research has taught me that the majority of PCOS ladies tend to get lots of embies most of the time?? I know my two choices are to throw them out or donate them but....I can't say I'm happy with either of those choices? How does everyone else reason this choice out? I need to find a way around this as I'm no where near deciding to stop at one child and I'm all out of TTC choices.
Hats off to any super strong/unselfish couples who choose to donate their leftover frosties but, I know that I couldn't live my life looking at strangers children and imagining that this or that one looks like me or my DH or my mum ect?! My dd looks ***sooo*** much like my DH that I'm sure our future embies/children would more than likely be the same and I would instantly recognise them if fate made us cross paths.
Where's I do consider myself " pro-choice" (except when people use it like their regular contraception!) I feel like years of infertility and now secondary infertility, my miscarriage and most importantly my beautiful daughter, I am definitely against abortion for myself and throwing out 1,2...10 (!) left over embies is waaay to close to abortion for my liking and personal morals How could I do that to several embryo's when I was absolutely devastated at miss-carrying one of their siblings? How could I choose to throw several of my DD's brother or sisters in the trash when I have the most perfect, beautiful proof of what they can potentially grow into in a mere few weeks currently sleeping so beautifully next to me??? My dd was exactly like those little embies a few short weeks before I felt her first little flutter-kicks in my belly.
And lastly....I'm terrified that me thinking like this will tempt fate to give me NO frosties and then my freshie won't stick Help! I'm really desperate for some different prospective's on this hurdle I'm trying to get over