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    Default Help! Im exhausted

    So I have 3 girls aged 10 4 and 2. ..my 10 year old is fine
    .goes to bed without drama but my 2 little ones are frustrating me beyond words..
    They have a bedtime routine dinner bath play bed and will happily hop into bed..then the battle starts. ..they cry they scream and they just wont go to sleep..im not a cio fan so that doesn't work for me..ive tried to sit on the floor till they drift off but sometimes im sitting there for hours because if I dare move they wake...I work 40+ hours a week plus all the normal mum jobs. .my partner works nights so unfortunately it's just me fighting the bed time battle. ..I don't know how much longer I can do it...I always end up cranky and I hate that..and there is always tears..mostly from me because im so exhausted. .but also from them...they have to be tired they wake up early dont sleep during the day and go to bed about 7.30..any suggestions. ...im almost at breaking point where I think it would be easier to let them fall asleep on the lounge when they are ready..but thats not an ideal solution either

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    Firstly you're working 40. + hours, raising 3 kids and your husband does night duty, you're super woman! This seems like you are stretched in every direction at all hours of the day , it's not sustainable, something has to give. Can you get someone in of an evening to help with the routine? Or drop some workhours? Any family to help?

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    I would change the time you put them to bed by half a hour so that its later. It saves the fight.

    I've also had success with relaxation CDs on while they're sleeping and sleep linen spray on their pillows. If anything at least it keeps you relaxed. Lol. But I genuinely think it sets the tone for sleep.
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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    Firstly you're working 40. + hours, raising 3 kids and your husband does night duty, you're super woman! This seems like you are stretched in every direction at all hours of the day , it's not sustainable, something has to give. Can you get someone in of an evening to help with the routine? Or drop some workhours? Any family to help?
    Yeah I am stretched. ..to the max. ..dropping hours isnt really an option due to mortgage etc and my parents are near by but travel constantly. .and are big believers in looking after your own kids lol..very supportive. .dps mum would help but shes the type of person who let's kids choose their own bedtime dinner etc..that would have us clashing. ...im screwed lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Acadaca View Post
    I would change the time you put them to bed by half a hour so that its later. It saves the fight.

    I've also had success with relaxation CDs on while they're sleeping and sleep linen spray on their pillows. If anything at least it keeps you relaxed. Lol. But I genuinely think it sets the tone for sleep.
    I've never thought of a relaxation cd. .where do I get one from..ill try anything!

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    Quote Originally Posted by meljemillie View Post
    Yeah I am stretched. ..to the max. ..dropping hours isnt really an option due to mortgage etc and my parents are near by but travel constantly. .and are big believers in looking after your own kids lol..very supportive. .dps mum would help but shes the type of person who let's kids choose their own bedtime dinner etc..that would have us clashing. ...im screwed lol

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    Can you afford to pay for some help? I just got one of DS carers to start helping me 3 mornings a week, I understand that attitude from parents, mine are a bit the same. Even if you got help 2 nights a week to take the pressure off. Don't worry if they sleep in the lounge either, with everything you've got going on, if they're sleeping, you're getting to work, they're fed, wAshed and in bed , any bed,then you're all good!

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    have they got a night light or special lamp? what about a pillow pet with the light it projects different images on the ceiling in the dark... ?

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    Could it be that the little ones are fussing at bedtime to try to spend more time with you? I went from part-time to fulltime work when DD was 3.5 and bedtimes went from easy to hellish almost overnight. She missed me and wanted to stay up to be with me. So I extended her bedtime routine to bath, cuddles on the lounge, then books in bed, then sleep. I told her (and reinforced again and again) that she had to have her eyes closed and be going to sleep at 8pm, so if she was fussing and delaying we would have to skip books and turn the light off earlier. I think I only had to do this once. It worked well for DD because she loves snuggling up and being read to, even now at 7 when she can read herself.
    It is tiring having a long bedtime routine after a full day of work, but it's what she needed at the time and it took the battle away. HTH

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    I was just looking at your routine and was just thinking play before bed may having you try to put them down too hypo which pp suggested may see them missing you and trying to stay awake. Maybe 15 mins before bed they have a glass oF milk on the lounge with you - turn the lights off so only tv is on and just cuddle. Then put them down that way. Our bedtime is 7pm and that coincides with ' in the night garden and when hoot goes on the night watch and sings' both are relaxing ending with songs so he is calm before bed. We carry him up but I guess that would be hard with two - maybe just carry the 2 year old up??

    We did this when my 2 year old tries the same thing - funny enough on day care days where he should be extra tired.


 

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