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    Honestly you have a good sleeper or you don't, you can fight it and sometimes win or just give into what works. You will find what works for you x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Electric Boogaloo View Post
    Thanks everyone. I think this is where I'm at right now, apart from quietly hoping for some miracle fix from somewhere that is! I think I just keep getting sidetracked by people around me who imply, directly and indirectly, that I've caused the problem, I need to fix the problem, I'm taking the 'easy' way by not trying harder etc etc. Plus DH has basically washed his hands of the issue because it was the same with DS1 and I refuse to let my kids CC/CIO so I feel like I'm not allowed to complain that I'm tired because it's my own damn fault. In any case DS2 is sleeping soundly beside me right now
    What I have learnt is to not complain or really talk about how your baby is sleeping. The more you do that, the more mean comments and stupid advice you are going to get. Even with DH I only complained on a couple of really really hard nights because he didn't want to hear it and just told me it was my fault and I had made her like thiS

    So I BF my kids for ages and I've just night weaned DD just after she turned 2yrs old. Slowly and gradually so as not to cut her off cold turkey lol. Amazing getting the extra sleep and so much easier on both of us doing it at this age knowing I can tell her what's going on and she can sort of understand why she can't have it. I know this isn't for everyone but this is my experience 😃

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    Quote Originally Posted by Albert01 View Post
    My thoughts on this are probably quite out of whack with most others in this thread but I found that co-sleeping and the all-night/ish feeding to sleep just exacerbated our problem. I was so tired and up and down to my ds that I started co-sleeping. However, I found that he learned that there was a boob close by so after each sleep cycle he would be looking to feed and comfort suck himself back to sleep.

    I just found that this interfered with my sleep so much that I became anxious and depressed day and night to the point where it was hard to enjoy being a Mother. I wish co-sleeping had worked well because it is lovely to be so close but neither myself not my baby was getting much useful.sleep.

    I also don't believe there is a "no cry" sleep solution. Even babies who are lovingly rocked to sleep will cry until their tiredness can be satisfied with sleep.

    I ended up going to sleep school. I hope I won't be back there with the coming baby!!

    There seems to be a lot of mixed meanings regarding the definition of CC and CIO....I didn't use these techniques at sleep school but what I did get was a lot of support, knowledge and some time to implement some different strategies in a consistent manner, without the distraction of other domestic issues.

    My post is not meant to be a comment on individual sleep change strategies etc....my point is really just that co-sleeping and all night comfort sucking just did not work for us.and maybe it's not something that had to be accepted if it's not working for you and your baby.

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    While I acknowledge this was your experience, co-sleeping doesn't have to mean comfort sucking or feeding all night. My DD only ever had one feed overnight even when we were co-sleeping all night. If she sleeps with me now she has no feed overnight. They don't have to go hand in hand.

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    I think it's better to start resale setting up serious sleep routines at about 3 and for me the solidify and work by 4yrs.

    No help I know. Just cosleep, enjoy the cuddles and wait until baby is ready. I cosleep but try to get him in his cot when I can so that I can stretch out. Lol.

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    Thanks Albert, it's good to have a range of opinions, I don't just want to hear what I might like to hear. I did go to sleep school with DS1. Hated it, didn't want to be there and didn't end up following their techniques. It wasn't so much the methods themselves but the fact that I'd already been dealing with it myself for months by co-sleeping, which was helping as DS1 was waking only once if at all. But it was a long and difficult process. With DS2 I think I've gone straight to what works so as to avoid the months of sleeplessness and screaming that we had with DS1.

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    Subbing. My 6 mnth old doin it now ! help. So tired.

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    Is he getting teeth? My 9 month old us not a great sleeping but about a month or so before he cut each set of teeth, maybe even longer he would wake every 2 hours. Now he's cut the top and bottom we will usually get 4-5 hrs then he wakes for a feed and goes straight back.

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    Have you found anything that works electric boogaloo?

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    Quote Originally Posted by HappiMummi View Post
    Have you found anything that works electric boogaloo?
    Unfortunately not. I just gave up for a while and am co sleeping just to get some rest. I try to detach DS when he has stopped feeding and he's started to sometimes detach himself and roll over to go to sleep. But I think that's more a developmental thing rather than anything I'm doing. And he still wakes approx every 2 hours :/

    Going to start to try the cot again soon but we'll see how it goes. Thanks for asking Are you having similar issues?

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    That's good you can get abit of sleep co sleeping - co sleeping doesn't work for us :-(
    I don't have the same problem anymore but ur post title sounded just like me - feel like I've tried everything and don't know what to do anymore. Im at my wits end. My problem is that feeding to sleep doesn't work alot anymore and nothing else really works either. I'm up roughly every 2 hrs aswel.
    Dd is 7.5 mths now but she used to always do the same thing as your lo. Either wake as soon as I delatch or when she was put in the cot. What I did for months was feed her to sleep at night and then have her sleep on me for 30-60 mins roughly and then transfer when she was in a really deep sleep.
    For day sleeps she sleeps on me.

    Have you tried the pantley dance? I started doing that at about 5 months and that worked pretty good for us for awhile. Basically what I would do is feed her on the lounge til she just falls asleep, then stand and start rocking/walking round her room. I delatch her whilst rocking so that she's got the movement to distract her and she stays asleep. She protested sometimes but because she's already really sleepy the rocking would normally get her back asleep. Then I would alternate rocking/moving around with standing completely still. No pattern with timing, I just keep making the standing still parts longer each time. Then I would place her in the cot.
    Hope that makes sense- I'm pretty tired right now 😜

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