I feel like it is considered basically shameful, deceptive and the cheats way out for women who have had babies to admit they are getting or want to get a tummy tuck. I have had two kids who I absolutely adore.. I dont like the belly I was left with. I am slim but I have a terrible abdominal muscle separation which 3 years after the last baby has not healed.. despite years of expensive physiotherapy.. I am very fit otherwise. It frustrates me I cant do "Regular" exercise, my friends invited my to do rollerderby with them but with my weak core, it was difficult and painful.. I cant do most exercise classes and I used to be a very active person.. if I do any of the stuff I used to love, like yoga and pilates, even the moderate versions are often not appropriate. I have chronic lower back pain and recently developed a small hernia above my belly button. My doctor has referred me for surgical repair but has also given me a referral to see a plastic surgeon, as I told her I was considering that route. I feel bad about the fact that I want a tummy tuck. The loose skin annoys me and is ugly to me. I browse sites like The Shape of Mother and I can sense a general tone that getting a tummy tuck or plastic surgery of any type means you havent accepted yourself, or are somehow less "natural" whatever that means... I want to "embrace" my post baby body.. I can't. I dont hate myself as a whole. I like myself. I have a great partner who still wants to jump all the time (give it a rest already lol). I havent got low self esteem. The fact of the matter is I am ashamed though. Ashamed that I would get this procedure done, which isn't necessary, which carries some added risks, simply so that I like this one little part of myself more. Why do I feel this way? I know having a nicer stomach shouldnt even be a high priority. In my every day life I dont give it a lot of thought, but the fact is, it does make me self conscious. particularly in summer. I'd actually rather be more overweight, than have a really deflated and odd looking stomach. Can anyone relate to these feelings? Is it just me?