My middle child is 4.5 years (girl), she has been quite "difficult" to deal with since as long as hubby and I can remember, but I'm feeling really overwhelmed and we are not sure where to go from here.
I don't want to label her and I don't want to sound like I'm over-reacting but I honestly don't think that how she is, is considered normal and appropriate.
She's very strong willed in life, she doesn't like being told she can't do something, touch, eat, play. She hates to share and goes as far as hitting, growling or screaming at the other child/sibling if I step in and say no it's their turn now.
She is a compulsive eater and eats all day but barely anything healthy, and if you don't give it to her she proceeds to have the screaming/growling/hitting tantrum like mentioned above.
We are on a waiting list to have her tonsils and adenoids removed very soon, which I feel could be half the problem. She doesn't sleep well, she was recently put on anti-biotics for her tonsils and she slept the whole night and her breathe smelt normal (it was smelling horrible).
She starts Kindy this year for 2 days 1 week and 3 days the other. She went to a Pre-Kindy program last year that I went to with her and I was surprised by her behaviour, she was so quiet, she didn't respond to the teachers when spoken to, she was unusually shy, she did as she was told to but would never talk.
I'm just concerned by all this, it's not sending off alarm bells for anything imparticular, doesn't sound autistic nor adhd to me?
I'm really hoping the tonsils removed might make some difference but I'm not convinced it's going to change everything.
Hubby and I spoke to a GP about it and didn't find him very helpful at all.
What would you do? I know some of these things might sound trivial over the net but it's honestly not normal behaviour, I have 2 other children who are not like this at all.
Anyways any advice would be appreciated, I want some answers for my daughter..