+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12
Results 11 to 19 of 19
  1. #11
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Adelaide
    Posts
    150
    Thanks
    16
    Thanked
    69
    Reviews
    0
    Thank you ladies, sometimes I feel like Iam being too judgemental of others but at the same time I don’t like wasting mybreath on people who say they want to change but never do anything. I think we have reached the final strawtoday. She’s trying to get pregnant with this guy because she’s decided since Ifell pregnant she is clucky. I don’t believe in trapping anybody with a childand think this is a very serious big mistake that you can’t take back. Myhusband and I cannot support her any further because she clearly isn’t listeningand her choices are becoming more reckless. I feel terrible that she has only startedtrying to get pregnant because of me and I don’t think I can look her in theeye and say I support her no matter what because I believe she’s being selfish.I will be contacting her tonight to let herknow that I need space as I think we are in very different places in our livesand as much as I want to help and support her I don’t believe going behind somebody's backand "accidentally" getting pregnant is mature or right. If she does turn up my husbandhas agreed to answer the door because he doesn’t think the stress of anargument is appropriate whilst I’m already pregnant and emotional. I hope I amdoing the right thing!

  2. #12
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    2,368
    Thanks
    498
    Thanked
    1,479
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts

    I think you're doing the right thing, what a lousy situation to be put in.

  3. #13
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    587
    Thanks
    358
    Thanked
    503
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Oh ****!! What is she like 14?!?
    That's crazy!!!

  4. #14
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Posts
    242
    Thanks
    76
    Thanked
    90
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by LilCritter View Post
    Thank you ladies, sometimes I feel like Iam being too judgemental of others but at the same time I don’t like wasting mybreath on people who say they want to change but never do anything. I think we have reached the final strawtoday. She’s trying to get pregnant with this guy because she’s decided since Ifell pregnant she is clucky. I don’t believe in trapping anybody with a childand think this is a very serious big mistake that you can’t take back. Myhusband and I cannot support her any further because she clearly isn’t listeningand her choices are becoming more reckless. I feel terrible that she has only startedtrying to get pregnant because of me and I don’t think I can look her in theeye and say I support her no matter what because I believe she’s being selfish.I will be contacting her tonight to let herknow that I need space as I think we are in very different places in our livesand as much as I want to help and support her I don’t believe going behind somebody's backand "accidentally" getting pregnant is mature or right. If she does turn up my husbandhas agreed to answer the door because he doesn’t think the stress of anargument is appropriate whilst I’m already pregnant and emotional. I hope I amdoing the right thing!
    You are doing the right thing, your 'friend' isn't - you deserve better!!

  5. #15
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Adelaide
    Posts
    150
    Thanks
    16
    Thanked
    69
    Reviews
    0
    Poor hubby got blind sided.. He received a couple of texts about trivial things from my friend & when he responded he got a call from her. He said I was sleeping but I could hear her saying I shouldnt be going on holiday & I was putting the baby at risk. Anything could happen & they wouldn't be able to save him etc. I'm so angry because my Ob cleared me & both my husband & I are comfortable with the decision which he did try to say but she insisted we are wrong.

    She asked him if I was ACTUALLY happy that we were having a boy... Why would you say that?! Then she's buying all these things for the baby & getting organised ... I'm pretty sure I will get told what to dress him in if I let it go that far!

    Told hubby to not respond from now on. It feels like she's trying to come between us or maybe I just have my guard up... Either way I think I really do need this bloody holiday!

  6. #16
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    587
    Thanks
    358
    Thanked
    503
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Woah, definitely not to be trusted.
    She is totally trying to cause trouble in your marriage, I would sever all times completely, zero contact, no replies, no answering the door, she sounds dangerous to be honest. I'm glad you got to hear what she said!

  7. #17
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    718
    Thanks
    1,642
    Thanked
    378
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Wow she sounds pretty immature, full on and a control freak. I would stop contact with her if thats how shes acting and treating you and your DH. You guys don't need her stressing you guys out in your life, imagine what she'll be like once bubs is born!

  8. #18
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Posts
    9,883
    Thanks
    3,044
    Thanked
    5,846
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Start ignoring texts or giving really short answers, letting calls go to voicemail etc. The cold shoulder should hopefully give her the hint.

    The other option is to be upfront and cut her off outright, though that is much more confrontational.

    Either way, I'd be distancing myself from this gal quick smart. She has so many traits that scream 'trouble' that I would just not want any part of it.

  9. #19
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Posts
    2,005
    Thanks
    291
    Thanked
    729
    Reviews
    6
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Two words: cut direct. As far as you are concerned, she will cease to exist. Ignore all texts, block calls if you can, if you see her, refuse to engage. She sounds like a bunny boiler!

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to Ruby_Tuesday15 For This Useful Post:

    Chillies  (15-01-2014)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 43
    Last Post: 27-02-2014, 08:22
  2. I don't know what's wrong and no one will listen.....please help me.....
    By Hopefully Waiting in forum Newborns (0 - 2 months)
    Replies: 211
    Last Post: 20-04-2013, 00:20

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
WaterWipes
Give your babies bottom a gift this Xmas! They are the only wipe made using just water and a drop of grapefruit seed extract and may help avoid nappy rash. Check out the great reviews on bubhub and see our website for more info and availability.
sales & new stuffsee all
Wendys Music School Melbourne
Wondering about Music Lessons? FREE 30 minute ASSESSMENT. Find out if your child is ready! Piano from age 3 years & Guitar, Singing, Drums, Violin from age 5. Lessons available for all ages. 35+ years experience. Structured program.
Use referral 'bubhub' when booking
featured supporter
Wendys Music School
Wendy’s Music School. Experience, Quality and great service! For qualifying students we will get you playing or singing your favourite music in 90 days GUARANTEED! Book a free assessment online now!
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!